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samchik1
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02 May 12 #327894 by samchik1

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Thank you all for this advice.

Haway...you''ll be pleased to know I''m finally listening to you. As soon as work is done on Friday afternoon I''m off with my son to the coast until Tuesday. That way he and I don''t have to witness her moving out process and we get some space again...best for us all. Will meet with my family there too.

To all...yes...I have to recognise this for what it is and I am trying to do so...although it is hard.

LW...good to hear about your Clint Eastwood project. I get where you''re coming from with that...and that''s pretty much exactly what we all have to do - lick our wounds...but come back stronger and tougher than ever.

leftwondering
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02 May 12 #327900 by leftwondering

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yeah Bandit.45

leftwondering
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02 May 12 #327929 by leftwondering

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samchik,
I have no family now. No close friends I can tell all this shit to.
I beleive I will meet a good woman one of these days.
I still believe in love.

LW

leftwondering
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02 May 12 #327977 by leftwondering

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samchik,
I have no family now. No close friends I can tell all this shit to.
I beleive I will meet a good woman one of these days.
I still believe in love.

LW

greebobeebo
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02 May 12 #328038 by greebobeebo

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Every relationship I''ve been in, I''ve morphed into a doormat. I''ve married twice and failed twice. My youngest son is the best thing that came out of my last marriage.

My 2nd OH played horrendous mind ***** with me. To this day (3 years after divorce) if I see him I still 2nd guess myself.

The biggest slap I''ve had to date, is when I saw him when #2 son and I were walking our mutt and he walked right past us without a word. I explained to #2 son who it was and nothing has been said since.

I have tried with another relationship, but found all he wanted was someone who was in when he chose to appear and then got all huffy when I refused sex.

I believe most emphatically that there is someone out there who will expect me to be me without the doormat stuck to my forehead.

That is what everybody deserves and also respect from t''other half.

Your wife is keeping her options open, cuz she knows your mister nice guy.

Let some other guy help her high maintenance arse. Concentrate on getting back on track for that little boy whose life has also been turned upside down.

Keep on keeping on friend.

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