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16 Jun 12 #337103 by coliuke
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I was working today,so ex husband had our daughter,as he was off.We both spoke about this couple times,and he agree to take her.Looks everything fine as we did changed our arangements before.Our daughter sees him Sundays- today Saturday.
Well,not that simple today.He was late,so I end up phoning him,just said coud he harry.Of course I was late to work.So then he showed up I just said,if he cant come on time he shoudn''t promise.And hell opened!He started shouting and ect.According to him he done me a favour.I didn''t lisen him or replyed,just rushed to work.
How to deal with exes?We meet up in a public place to avoid his tempers,but doesn''t work.I don''t reply to his abuse.Can''t understand why we can''t be normal.Our divorce still not done,is this could be problem?
Plus,I dont think he was doing any favour,as if he has daughter on saturday,he gets extra time with her( longer hours).So you would think he would be happy.And Im not getting any maitenants from him since february,as he was sacked.So again he should be wanting help at least having our daughter,so i can work.

Please any advice?How to dea with ex???

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16 Jun 12 #337107 by pixy
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My personal answer would involve voodoo dolls and pins, but that wouldn''t be very helpful, so I''ll just send you a hug.

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16 Jun 12 #337112 by coliuke
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:)))) lol.Maybe good idea!

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16 Jun 12 #337114 by hawaythelads
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1.Don''t rely on him for covering the child care properly.Sounds very unreliable sort of chap.
2.Don''t bother moaning at him that he is late.Didn''t alter the fact and was obviously going to cause an argument with his aggressive nature which I''m sure you could well do without.

All the best
Pete x

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16 Jun 12 #337141 by loveourmum
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Don''t rely on your ex husband for anything then that way you will not be disappointed whenever he doesn''t "deliver!"

As is very clearly from this website, there are a lot of decent fathers who would, without a shadow of a doubt, love to be in the position that your ex could/should be in.

Best wishes.

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17 Jun 12 #337144 by Canuck425
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I guess you have to continue to deal with him honestly (as I am sure you have been). Pete is right in that it seems like you cannot count on him. Work is important and if you cannot be late then you cannot count on him.

With notice, I would change almost any plans to spend more time with my kids. The Absolute worst part of this process is spending much less time with my kids. I know they miss me and I miss them too.

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17 Jun 12 #337158 by blonde cazza
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Ive had something very similar this week.Ive learnt not to rely on anyone but yourself xx

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