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23 Jul 12 #344731 by Cinnabar123
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I have three kids, 13, 11, 9. One new partner of one year, separated now divorced from their father almost 3 yrs. Middle child hates new partner, and I have until now thought about buying two flats after FMH is sold - one with partner and one nearer kids (100 miles away) just so I can keep middle one and partner apart. She is quite vindictive and has made terrible false accusations to SS about him. I see my kids fri, sat and sun.
Should I mortgage myself to the hilt just to keep two people I love apart, or should I just buy an affordable home and bring my two reasonable kids (who like my new partner), and wait for the other one to start being reasonable?

Any suggestions gratefully received, I can''t sleep and am having terrible dilemma-filled summer holiday with them already - renting a flat near partner so I can work and have them too. Nightmare.

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23 Jul 12 #344735 by mya
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Have you spoken to the middle child about why they are so upset? It could be that the time they have with you isn''t excusively with just you anymore and they feel pushed out or that you''re life is moving forward and because they don''t see you everyday it''s not seamless movements but more jumps. If that makes sense.
I would try talking to the child first or seeing if they need someone to talk to. I don''t know anything about children, divorce (or even relationships right now) but I would look at every other option in the tiniest detail before being mortgaged up to your eyes. Without sounding too cynical there are no certanties this relationship will work out so are you still going to live between two properties if it doesn''t?

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