Just seperated

Hi Kazzabell

Glad to hear today has been a better one for you. Hang on in there.

I have been following the posts here as there are lots of similarities in our situation and the help and advice have been helping me too.

I am in limbo now, still living together, other half has said there is a friendship with another woman but I still can`t get him to see / admit it counts as an affair. This is very hard for me to cope with.

Anyway on the possessive side counselling was good and helped. In the meantime I am tidying the house up ready to get an estate agent in to value it. Trying to work through the situation but with a mindset of moving forward so I can have a life without him, have to face the reality of our situation and this is the most likely outcome.

Hi Taff

I am sorry to hear that you are going through the same as me. It is devastating to think that the life and man that you though you had and knew turns out to be someone else completely.

I am going to do everything that I can to keep this house as it was our dream house(although perhaps it was only my dream house), plus the children have forged very good social circles around us. It would be devastating even more to have to move from here.

I know that OH has said that he is happy for me to have the place but of course it will be me left with the hefty mortgage, although I think that it will be worth it in the long run.

I do need to get something in writing from him, perhaps an Affadavit or something like that in the interim would stand up in future? Any advise on this would be greatly appreciated.

I am not seeing him until Friday now anyway as he is in work for the next few days.

Although he has still said that he is happy to do the counselling, he said that it may shed some light on to why he feels the way that he does but he doesn''t want to give me any false hope in case there really is nothing.

I am trying hard to focus on me and children at the moment although sometimes my thoughts get the better of me and I start to well up but I know that he isn''t suffering the way that I am so I try to shake myself out of it