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19 Aug 12 #350505 by Kazzabell80
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It will be seven weeks tomorrow that he walked out on me and our two children.

I was absolutely devastated at first but as time goes on the urge to want to ring and text him every two minutes is slowly diminishing. I have also left all of the contacting up to him and it has worked as he has text me a few times. He even asked me how I was last week, indirectly as it was a text that asked how everyone was but that in itself was a small victory for me ;)

Anyway, I am sitting here with a job application that he has asked me to help him with. I have it open on the screen in front of me and just find myself staring at it (same company, better pay). He is at work at the moment and said that he would come around later so that we could finalise bits on it.

I am more academic than him and so can put a good application together for him easily, he has the knowledge and experience to do the job but isn''t so good at putting it on to paper if you know what I mean. I am pleased that he feels that he can come to me and ask for my help and that he trusts me to do it but...

I have very mixed feelings about it. On the one hand I want to help him as I still hope that we can get back together (we start counselling this Friday), but on the other hand, what am I thinking? This man walked out on me and is still giving me the ''I can''t see a future for us'' speech and yet I am going out of my way to help him.

If I do help him and we get back together then great but if we don''t.....doesn''t that just make me look like a complete idiot? :blush:

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19 Aug 12 #350508 by happyagain
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No, if he gets the job but doesn''t come back then he has put himself in a position where he will probably have to give you more money. And he''s told you all about it so can''t hide that fact! I would say that makes him the complete idiot ;)

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19 Aug 12 #350511 by Kazzabell80
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Yes I didn''t think of it that way :laugh:

Although I haven''t told him yet but if he did get it, I am the Accountant for that department! :P

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19 Aug 12 #350512 by leanng
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Go along with it. You are then really in a good situation whatever happens then.

It will be hard to do and i don''t think i could do it but you need to think about how it affects you and your childrens future.

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19 Aug 12 #350516 by Kazzabell80
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I know, that is what the logical side of me is saying.

The other is saying, sod him, he left. Why should I? It could all be for nothing.

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19 Aug 12 #350518 by leanng
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believe me, i''d feel exactly the same.

I helped my ex get promoted, went through all interview techniques with him, explained how to answer the questions in a format. At the end he said" i didn''t know you could talk the talk"!

and he got the job!!

i laugh cos i know he wouldn''t have got it otherwise and he knows it too!!!

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19 Aug 12 #350522 by Kazzabell80
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Well, I suppose that is the risk that I will have to take.

I am hoping that it will work out for the best mind you.

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