The ex harridan moved another bloke into the
marital home 3 months after I''d left I moved out in the september Bazza was in by the January(sorry been pushed out because she made life so unbearable the previous year as she''d been having an affair with another bloke from work I subsequently found out).
I think at first for me personally the hardest part was being the entirely innocent party who had never strayed in 13 years and yet losing my home that I had bought (all me none of it her) and living with my kids,because she had decided without my knowledge that she fancied a variety selection box of cock.
I wasn''t best pleased I have to say especially not when I was atill left with the DFS Sofa bill for the next 18 months that they were shxgging on because as she poefacedly explained the loan agreement was in my name.
Neither was I overmoon when as the unpaid babysitting service I used to have to pick my own kids up from my own home with the harridan and Bazza''s following me out the door a nano second later done up to the nines to go out for the night.
I wasn''t jumping for joy either much the day of my sons 11th birthday when I was asked to drop the kids back early for a BBQ at my home when the amount of cars parked up outside all the outlaws and the same friends that used to attend with me there meant I had to park the car half way up the street walk my kids to the door stand on the doorstep to have the thanks and door shut in my face.Yes thanks I thought thanks for the fecking free house that I stole off you by shxgging other blokes it makes a great party venue.
MMMM YES I WAS LOVIN IT LOVIN IT LOVIN IT that day.Yes indeedy.
So in the meantime there I was the first 5 months at my Mum and Dad''s with my 8 black bin bags and then in my rented flat for the first 18 months absolutely fecking shell shocked.Sitting around in my underpants eating crisps watching Tv seemed to be my main hobby feeling desparately lonely that life was so unfair and why was it that the person who had done nothing wrong was alone and the immoral one had the kids the house and a life that was completely unnaffected.
I forgot to tell you that the year we split the family business was closed lost my £70k a year job and had to start being a freelance sales rep the day I told her that was the day that she announced well might as well get all the bad news out the way in one hit I want a divorce.
So what got better for me certainly wasn''t the divorce settlement that changed my life out of £400k worth of assets I took £110k.I got to keep my £130k pension fund though whoop de doo that''ll pay me approx £3000 a year when I''m 65 get in!!
Really I just got used to the fact that when you hit really rough shxt times you''re on your own.There will be people around you but they can only offer so much encouragement.Ultimately it''s that feeling shxt inside feeling the unhappiness the real sick feeling that you ultimately are the only person who can overcome it.
I suppose the more you are on your own the more you get used to it and then like you know all your family and friends get divorce fatigue eventually you even start to bore yourself thinking about it all the time.
Then you start to feel a bit better and you like your own company.Then you start thinking I''m going to go out tonight and rather than having that feeling that you''re not really there all of a sudden you''re enjoying yourself and having a laugh again.Then people are like he''s a great bloke ain''t he and he''s a real free spirit.Because all of a sudden you are your happy in your own skin you''re independent.You couldn''t give a feck if you''re out or if you''re going home with your meal for one to watch eastenders.You''re just as equally happy.
With that you also take the blinkers off on the failed marriage and realise it weren''t all that anyways and the other blokes welcome to it.
Then you have a new rest of your life and for once you''re in the driving seat rather than being a passenger.
Of course you can go the other way and jump straight back into another relationship with all your undealt with issues that''ll eventually cause it to unravel again because you''ll never truly know who you are.
But I would advise through solitude comes enlightenment.
All the best
HIS ROYAL HAWAYNESS xx