A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce

01202 805020

Lines open: Monday to Friday 9am-5pm
Call for FREE expert advice & service info

What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.

Do you need help sorting out a fair financial settlement?

Our consultant service offers expert advice and support to help you reach agreement on a fair financial settlement quickly, and for less than a quarter of the cost of using a traditional high street solicitor.


  • taff45
  • taff45's Avatar Posted by
  • Premium Member
  • Premium Member
03 Oct 12 #359137 by taff45
Topic started by taff45
Hello everyone

Has been a lille while since I was here. I am now a month into living alone.Just wondering how others have found this. I have never lived alone before. I have the children with me but I am responsable now for everyone on my own, very scary. Although my husband says he wants us to be friends and "look after me as best he can" reality is he is so busy with work he rarely delivers on this - they are just word to make him feel better. Relationship broken down so much now we only communicate by email.

The pain initially was immense and on the positive side I have moved on a little from that. But the strength need for this stage and the fight to get to a better place - am questioning what I have left in me for this.

I know I need to count my blessings, at least I have my health and children, and get on with rebuilding but struggling. Wiki and everyone here has been a lifeline for me in all this. Once again I would be grateful for anyone sharing who has been and is in the same situation.


  • julie321
  • julie321's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
03 Oct 12 #359194 by julie321
Reply from julie321

I have lived alone with mydauhter for three years and yes at first it was terrifying. However as I realised I could do things for myself and if I couldn''t I would find someone who could my confidence grew.

There were times that I took a step back but now I know I have made huge steps forward and now as my daughter starts her university career with excellent A level results I am completely alone except for my dogs.

I cried all the way home after dropping her off at the weekend but am so proud of where we both are today. I haven''t cried since and I know she will benefit greatly from university life and I am proud of myself for supporting her to get there.

You can do this, just take it a day at a time and good luck.

  • cliasmol£7
  • cliasmol£7's Avatar
  • Premium Member
  • Premium Member
03 Oct 12 #359198 by cliasmol£7
Reply from cliasmol£7
Dear Taff,
I am sorry that you are hurting.
Six months ago my husband of 35 years walked out, I had never lived on my own as I got married @ 18, I still find it hard, but it does get a little easier over time, I think the answer is to keep very busy, doing things/seeing people.
Good Luck.

  • taff45
  • taff45's Avatar Posted by
  • Premium Member
  • Premium Member
03 Oct 12 #359204 by taff45
Reply from taff45
Thank you both for your replies - they help.

Know I have no choice but to get on with it, keep busy and keep rebuilding - just wish it was easier.

Two children''s birthdays looming and then christmas - more challenges. I suppose the first year will be like this with all the firsts to overcome.

Moderators: wikivorce teamrubytuesdaydukeyhadenoughnowTetsSheziLinda SheridanForsetiMitchumWhiteRoseLostboy67WYSPECIALBubblegum11

The modern, convenient and affordable way to divorce.

No-Fault Divorce £179

We provide the UK's lowest cost no-fault divorce service, managed by a well respected firm of solicitors. 

Online Mediation £250

Online mediation is a convenient and inexpensive way to agree on a fair financial settlement.

Consent Order £259

This legally binding agreement defines how assets (e.g. properties and pensions) are to be divided.

Court Support £250

Support for people who have to go to court to get a fair divorce financial settlement without a solicitor.