Has been a lille while since I was here. I am now a month into living alone.Just wondering how others have found this. I have never lived alone before. I have the children with me but I am responsable now for everyone on my own, very scary. Although my husband says he wants us to be friends and "look after me as best he can" reality is he is so busy with work he rarely delivers on this - they are just word to make him feel better. Relationship broken down so much now we only communicate by email.
The pain initially was immense and on the positive side I have moved on a little from that. But the strength need for this stage and the fight to get to a better place - am questioning what I have left in me for this.
I know I need to count my blessings, at least I have my health and children, and get on with rebuilding but struggling. Wiki and everyone here has been a lifeline for me in all this. Once again I would be grateful for anyone sharing who has been and is in the same situation.
I have lived alone with mydauhter for three years and yes at first it was terrifying. However as I realised I could do things for myself and if I couldn''t I would find someone who could my confidence grew.
There were times that I took a step back but now I know I have made huge steps forward and now as my daughter starts her university career with excellent A level results I am completely alone except for my dogs.
I cried all the way home after dropping her off at the weekend but am so proud of where we both are today. I haven''t cried since and I know she will benefit greatly from university life and I am proud of myself for supporting her to get there.
You can do this, just take it a day at a time and good luck.
I am sorry that you are hurting.
Six months ago my husband of 35 years walked out, I had never lived on my own as I got married @ 18, I still find it hard, but it does get a little easier over time, I think the answer is to keep very busy, doing things/seeing people.