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New circle of friends?

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26 Mar 12 #320155 by esox11
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After 28 years with the S2BX i am at a bit of a loss with regards getting back out there.... socialising, meeting new people.

The only place i seem to meet people is in the supermarket..lol

Pointers.... ideas?? What works for you??

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26 Mar 12 #320200 by survive
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Hi Esox, yes it can be really hard? Do you have any interests? Hobbies. Maybe you could join an evening class, fitness class, gym... depending on what interests you. It''s really hard to do things on your own initially, but if you are doing something you enjoy or have always wanted to do then it does make it easier.
Think of it as your chance to be you and do exactly what you want.

If money is not an issue, there are some proper clubs, I know there have been posts on this about it before. One of them is called spice and they arrange events... it depends on your budget though.

Good luck
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27 Mar 12 #320208 by Shoegirl
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I started a thread on rebuilding a social life not so long ago. It got somewhat a mixed response but if you cut through that, it is what I set out for it to be, be a collection of ideas of things to try. One size does not fit all, however by pooling our ideas on stuff to try, it increases the chances of people finding the right way forward for themselves.

Spice may be an option for you. This is an orgnaisation for all ages and it is common for people to turn up to events alone and get introduced to others via the organser. Its not dating, it is a social and activity group. The local library usually has information about evening courses, local walking groups, book groups etc so that''s a good place to look. Some have got a new hobby, golfing lessons at the local club, cookery groups, the list of possibilities is endless! You just need to get in touch with what you really want to do and if you don''t know, do what I did and try a heap of new things and stick with a few things you liked most. I even joined rock choir which is good fun but not for everyone!

Wikimeets are also good for making new friends.

I have no idea why this issue is not given more focus here, as it is such a huge issue for so many members. I always try to help on these threads as I know from experience that rebuilding a social life is perfectly possible.

There are lots of wikis in spice too so you might find that you bump into wikis in your local group.

Good luck! It gets better and with rebuilding a social life, what you put in is what you get out.

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27 Mar 12 #320269 by esox11
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Thanks.

After 28 years together its hard to know where to start!

I have a great circle of friends but they where "our friends" and some have chosen sides... some say they havent but their friendship has changed and some have been fantastic support wise.

Need to find something new that does not involve a pub! It''s too easy to go to the village pub and meet the same people and have the same conversations week in week out.

Booked a week away with some friends so looking forward to that but really need to look into soe new hobbies. Need to learn to cook for starters... lol

Ta again.

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27 Mar 12 #320284 by Marshy_
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Supermarkets are great for meeting people. Esp single people. U can always tell the single person. They either have a small trolley or a basket. The small trolley doesnt always mean they are single however.

But if you want to meet people to socialise, U have a number of options. You could join a club or society. That is a great way of meeting people.

Dating sites of course. You say "just friends" and that gets you, friends. Thats actualy how I did it.

You could also do what I did once. Went and sat in a pub with a pint. After a while, people started inviting me to their table. It was a good night actualy. But that doesnt work for everyone. And if you only have the one pub and you know everyone there, that wont realy work.

If you want to learn to cook, join a class. I did exactly that 5 or so years ago. Its safe to say that I couldnt even chop and onion or clarify butter. But of course I do now. And that class had a club attached to it. Its a bit like come dine with me. We all take it in turns to host a meal for everyone. Ok, that may not be yr cup of tea. But a class will teach you to cook and introduce you to people. So all is not lost. Remember, there are lots and lots of people out there just like you. And the single community is one of the fastest growing. People that make life choices not to marry. Or divorced people. C.

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27 Mar 12 #320286 by esox11
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Nice one Marshy...

Sat in the pub sunday eve reading the paper and was surprised that people i knew vaguely came and said hi etc. I dont want to fall into the pub every night though... could get messy lol.

Gym may be something to try too?

Come dine with me would be interesting... BBQ anyone lol

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27 Mar 12 #320321 by pixy
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Getting a new social life is something you have to work at. You need to try all sorts of different things - but the point is to try them, no matter how shy or lacking in confidence you feel, you just have to force yourself to do it. And when you''ve done it once it gets easier the next time, and easier still every time thereafter. We''re all in the same boat so try a wikimeet!

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