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Getting a life

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12 Jan 14 #418699 by mum26
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I''m trying to think myself into the future a little and think about life when I finally get myself free.

I''ve spent the last 2 years trying to save my family and marriage from my husband who was determined to ruin them and after that I''ve been focused on getting the strength to make a divorce happen. I have a big fight ahead and will have chunks of my time on my own after this when I have had the children up to now. I work hard and would use extra time to catch up (I''m a teacher) and finally get the house clean and tidy, but I want to make a life for myself too. I''m sociable and have plenty of friends but in their thirties and forties and ALL in long term relationships. So, where do I even begin to start a new social life? I''ve had my shoulder to the wheel for so long that I feel a bit lost at the thought of it.

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12 Jan 14 #418701 by Grandpa
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Join a club.
Learn to play golf, learn to play Bridge. Both great games and can be totally absorbing.
I know there are also some ladies groups like the Rotary that meet up for coffee and lunch.

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12 Jan 14 #418702 by driven40
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Think about a new hobby that way you are learning something new and meeting new people who don''t know about everything you have been through and if you have to travel to it a little way even better no chance of bumping into someone who may know someone who knows your business a way or reinventing yourself.

I am going to return to my dancing. I have danced since I was 3 have done every kind going but I want to revisit both my tap shoes and my ballroom shoes I was made to give up my dancing by my stbx who thought it was stupid mainly because I once asked him to come salsa dancing with me as a bit if fun and he walked out of the place when he couldn''t/wouldn''t have a go saying that all the male dancers were gay and he wasn''t associating himself with that kind!!! So when I am free of my stbx watch out strictly here I come!!!

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12 Jan 14 #418703 by mum26
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Driven I think you and I are married to similar men. After nearly 30 years I discover that the only me left is the one he made :(

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12 Jan 14 #418705 by driven40
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No you are there just need to remove a few layers first just think of peeling an onion it makes you cry a bit but the layers do come away

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