I completely get where you come from cazza, my ex is one the biggest man child i have met, and of course that reflects on his relationship with his children, as with everybody else around him:
he can''t do this or that because he''s working (nobody else is...) but still manages to eat out and go out of course.
but let''s not forget "you don''t understand, it''s not the same"....
Gets me so so angry.
"An expectation is a premeditated resentment". It''s a saying that I try to remember and it helps me. It doesn''t make life less busy but don''t need to waste my energy getting angry. I can''t change another persons behaviour.
I can see where you''re coming from and think some of the responses to you are slightly harsh. It''s really not easy to accept that your ex has changed and you and your family are no longer a priority.I don''t have children but I really struggle with the way my husband is behaving. He''s completely washed his hands of me, there''s no respect for me, no accepting responsibility for what he''s done..........
I get upset and angry because my husband hurt me enough when he ended our marriage but he continues to hurt me. The loving caring man I fell in love with and married is now a nasty, manipulative coward.
I struggle to accept he doesn''t give a s£?t about me any more but I''m hoping this will change in time.