It's a fair point on both sides. When foreign language begins in chat, I automatically scan the list to see if there are any newbies or generally quiet people in because I am mindful that they may be put off.
I think compromise is needed here - to avoid peeps being upset or feeling overly restricted.
Compromise for you SA is to possibly bear with it for a minute or two to let them
get their little bit of fun out of the way
as saffy put it.
Compromise for those who want to chat in a foreign languge is to go into another room (please explain to peeps why) in chat so that they can feel less restricted in this way.
At the end of the day wikipeeps, you have to remember we are a support site - yes of course we want to let our hair down sometimes, and yes we want to be able to have a bit of fun in chat. However, what we can't support at wiki are activities that are effectively exclusive if (and when) a member(s) starts to feel excluded. I'm sure no one here would continue with something they were aware was causing that. Divorce commonly brings feelings of isolation... exclusion would be dreadful from the very community designed to support.
I am sorry to hear that having requested inclusion you apparently did not receive this. I respect how had it is for some of us to ask for something and the feeling of exclusion that can be experienced if same is not forthcoming. Unfortunately this has had a negative impact on you at a time you need support...feel free to pm me if you want to chat.
If this was Wee Kate and I chatting, (actually in Spanish, not German) then I am also very sorry.
We were "having a bit of fun" and not doing it to the detriment of others on the board.
I also didn't see you ask us to stop, and would certainly have done so had I seen it.
Sorry if you felt excluded by this, and I will certainly think a bit more in the future.