I forgot to sign in last night and was shocked that other than writing posts or blogs the contents of all our posts are fully viewable by non members.I thought my password afforded me some security and privacy when writing posts but it seems not.also an sx2b could soon identify their partner by the contents of the posts as some of us are quite open in describing our situations.Would it not be possible to allow only members to read the posts as an added privacy/safety measure.
to Camberwick Green.
I am neither dumb nor stupid.I am exercising my right as a member to post a suggestion/opinion.It's a pity that certain senior members cannot respect posts written by newer members and your remark "not rocket science" is a fine example of the disrespect dished out by some.
I suppose it may be possible to have a tick section on our files to say if we want members only to read our posts have to see what the IT peeps can come up with, if we keep adding to our wants we may end up in the realms of member ship fees for certain added assistance hehehe. As does my diary site to add music, moveing pics, longer posts, and who I want to read what I write ie mine is member only and read by invatation only
Topaz i wasn't meaning you, sorry it came across wrong, I was meaning non-members becoming members, its no like we have to prove who we are before gaining access as a member as on one forum i am a member of.
again sorry if I hurt your feelings was not meant that way
I totally understood what you said and knew it wasnt ment to offend in any way.
The problem with a lot of people were all this divorce lark is concerned are feeling on edge and take things the wrong way.
At no time did CG say you were dumb or stupid, the comment they made was actually true. The thing is if you have wrote something in a post that you are concerned your ex2b or ex can see, to be honest, you are not alone and your problem will not be unique to just you. If you read the many old posts on here from the older posters, then you will see the newer posters are usually going over the same ground we longer members covered months before. Which is totally fine, if you feel some of the longer posters are in any way not respecting anything the newer posters are posting then i for one am a little offended, the longer posters on this site have usually finished or nearing the end of their divorce stuff and only come on to help out where they can or offer advice where they have been before.
The comment "not rocket science" was ment by saying anyone can join even if the posts were only readable by members. In other words if your ex joined he could still probably see what u have wrote and put two and two together. It all depends on how you word it, like i say many of us have a unique story to tell, but considering there are probably 60 million people in Uk i doubt it really is unique and coming on a site like this usually shows you you are not alone.
Anyway wishing everyone kind thoughts and for all you whose day it in in court Tomorrow. Good luck and chins up!!!!!!!!!!
The Wikivorce divorce support community has an open membership policy. Anyone with an email address can become a member.
As you point out, almost all of the information on the site is viewable by guests as well as members.
Becoming a member enables you to interact with other members via the forum, chat, blogs, comments and messages.
The only real private areas are:
1) Private messaging (your wikivorce email inbox/outbox)
2) 1 on 1 Private chat
So lets be clear, if you blog or write posts on the forum they can bee seen by guests and members alike.
So if you choose to blog of post forum messages or comments then you do so on the understanding that they are viewable.
Topaz - if there is specific content you wish to remove then let us know and we could remove unwanted posts/blog entries etc.
We believe that members are in general aware that their postings and blogs are viewable and that they are happy with this.
Our main tips are:
1) Use an anonymous username.
2) Only blog if you are happy that one day your ex may find and read it.
3) You can use the forum to get specific questions answered without revealing personal details that could lead to someone identifying you.
At this point in time Wikivorce do not plan to change the viewing rights for guests.
But we do welcome your comments and will respond to what our members want. So if anyone else has views on this subject please reply to this post.