My x2b was asked to leave after what I found out about him when I gave him the divorce letter. I asked for the key and he gave it due to his shock at being discovered and went to his parents. He returned the following day to colect items that i had washed, ironed and packed neatly. He snatched the keys and tried to take them, I got hurt in the process of getting them back. My sol started an injunction due to his behaviour. He turned up 2 weeks ago and I opened the door to him barging in saying he was moving back and that was final. It all got very nasty and he finally left but I had to get my dad to help. He has asked for some personal possessions via his solicitor and I have no problem with him having them. I offered to give him the things via my car at a friends house. He is adament that he wants to pick them up from the house as he might want to look at things. I am so worried that he won't leave when he comes and will cause trouble. After what he has done I don't particularly want to let him in.
Can anyone help?
Can you agree to let him in to pick up his stuff if you have your Dad there and he has one of his parents there. With each of you having a parent there, he is less likely to kick off. Don't suggest just your Dad as he may feel it is two against one
That is a good idea but he has lied to his parents about why we are getting divorced and does not want me to see his parents in case I tell them the truth about him - he is much happier telling them a load of rubbish and thinks it will never come out?
Can I leave the things outside the front door for him to collect?
You have to remember that it is his house too and there will be things in there he may have forgotten about and would like to take with him. When I separated with my ex2b, her father came round to be with her and I was on my own and I was bullied into not taking stuff. There was some stuff that was mine that I forgot and even though I have asked for it, she has just ignored any request.
Offer him to have your Dad and one of his parents and he can accept it or decline it. You may want to move stuff that you don't want him to take so that it is not around - small stuff that he may forget - but disguise the fact stuff is not there by changing the furniture around in rooms. If he asks why you have done it, say as you needed to change things to help you move on