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06 Jan 08 #10119 by megan
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After well over 30 years together my husband left with 1 hours notice is of course having an affair. I am in the house and pay all bills including car whilst he pays mortgage. I found out he had a mortgage break for 3months so should be ok for money. He is living with family member with little cost. However in the first month he left he spent twice his income mostly on weekends and presants for her. I feel he wont continue to pay the mortgage and is out of control with money. He used to be very carefull. I earn a little more than him but can't afford to pay mortgage along with everything else.
My solicitor says I may be responsible for his debt.
I'm worried that whilst I'm being carefull he's lost it.

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06 Jan 08 #10122 by magnet
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HI megan

if the debt is in his sole name how can you be responsible for it? Did your solicitor explain why you might be liable?

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06 Jan 08 #10125 by loobyloo
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hi re debts
they are the person whos name they n in or out marriage...but.... if debts incurred as family or for necessity and not indulgence, they will be considered in the marital pot and shared ... believe me i know am going through such problems at present
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06 Jan 08 #10127 by Angel557
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Great i can see me getting lumbered with his £27,000 worth of debt , he has'nt given me a penny since 1999 and he never bought anything for us as a family even though he stated in his x petition family related expenses hmmm let me think what the hell were they.

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06 Jan 08 #10129 by megan
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I haven't seen my solicitor for a few weeks but when I asked at the initial meeting she seemed to say as we were still married al debts were both of ours.

Whilst everone is being so helpfull any idea why he keeps telling everyone that the fact he left for her is all my fault. It seems that he should be in a happy place with her whilst I am clawing my way out of a very black hole. Why does he have to keep lieing about me.

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06 Jan 08 #10132 by loobyloo
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My x2b was tight as f... despite income of 100k + i ncurred personal debt purely for famly and helping out family members etc... be assured i now have to account for the debts before they are decided upon as mine or his or ours..... be warned f you have personal debt during marriage it is NOT automatically shared... yes shocked.... so was i.... he has loads more money and potential income than me
sorry but this is fact..... anyone can tell me different?
loobs x

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06 Jan 08 #10133 by Specialdad
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Megan

Divorce him as fast as possible, have the petition drawn up.

Start the financial proceedings at the same time.

Get an occupation order on the property.

Get a non molestation order if he is being abusive or violent.

Get the court to give you a temporary periodic mantainence order.

If you have children and he is not contributing get ththe CSA on his back.

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