My Wife told me our marriage was over in May last year. I moved out of the marital home and now live in a bedroom at my sisters house 30 miles away. I have no probs seeing my kids (10 and 6). There is no hope of reconciliation, I am awaiting divorce petition and mediation. My question lies around current arrangements pending mediation. For 5 months I paid all of the outgoings on the marital home i.e. bills, council tax and mortgage this amounted to approx £1100. X2B only paid for SKY. I earn £1800 per month net. In October I asked the X2B if she could pay the bills in full per month as she was earning over £1300 net when child tax credits/child benefit were added to her take home pay. This X2B agreed too. I currently pay the mortgage (£800 per month) plus the dogs food/insurance (£45 per month)- I could not take the dog to sisters, plus the children adore her and would be upset if I did. The bills for the MH is approx £300. I have had a few of my friends and family telling me I am being very generous, given the likely outcome of mediation will be that I lose the house or get very little from the house sale proceeds (£140k profit expected). I would be very grateful for your views or similar experiences?
Hi - I can relate to your situation. My wife has declared that our marriage is over albeit I haven't moved out.
We have 3 kids all under 8 and yesterday my world fell apart when I went to see a solicitor.
She stands to get the lot, 70% of the equity, remains in the home, my 30% is tied up until the youngest is 18 and I also have to pay 25% maintenance each month. Basically, I am screwed financially plus standard access to the children will be every other weekend