A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce

01202 805020

Lines open: Monday to Friday 9am-5pm
Call for FREE expert advice & service info

What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.

Do you need help sorting out a fair financial settlement?

Our consultant service offers expert advice and support to help you reach agreement on a fair financial settlement quickly, and for less than a quarter of the cost of using a traditional high street solicitor.

just starting and terrified

  • JustH
  • JustH's Avatar
  • Premium Member
  • Premium Member
08 Jul 07 #1242 by JustH
Reply from JustH
Hi groom42,

This is my first post on this board, though I registered a couple of days ago.

I am a similar age, 42, hubby 44, and we've been married 21 years. He left 4 weeks ago tonight and I too am terrified. I have got a solicitor because I had no choice, but have not had the petition yet.

The reason I am replying to you, is because of the similar situation with your daughter. Mine is 14- also have a son 20- but she also thinks Dad is wonderful and I am the villain in all this, and I'm terrified that she will just see things not as they are and opt to live with him. I have been with her 24/7 this week after picking her up from school for cutting herself, not him- me- he's just carried on with his life and pushed it to one side as attention seeking.

He left the family home after a row and went to his Dad's, and I'm trying so hard to be nice to him, even to persuade him to come back till she's old enough and live separate lives , but he's having none of it. But the kids don't see that, they take you/me for granted probably as always, and I was always the one to disciplins as he works long hours etc, etc.

Anyway, very similar issues with work, property, income , pension etc., but not quite as high, but very similar in any case.

Hope we can help each other, and also have support- nice to post and look forward to being part of this community

BTW have also had horses, but not anymore, they were too much of a commitment, which is just saying I understand that bit as well

Moderators: wikivorce teamrubytuesdaydukeyhadenoughnowTetsSheziLinda SheridanForsetiMitchumWhiteRoseLostboy67WYSPECIALBubblegum11

The modern, convenient and affordable way to divorce.

No-Fault Divorce £179

We provide the UK's lowest cost no-fault divorce service, managed by a well respected firm of solicitors. 

Online Mediation £250

Online mediation is a convenient and inexpensive way to agree on a fair financial settlement.

Consent Order £259

This legally binding agreement defines how assets (e.g. properties and pensions) are to be divided.

Court Support £250

Support for people who have to go to court to get a fair divorce financial settlement without a solicitor.