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My husband has left and wants to sell our house.

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23 Jan 08 #11560 by lynn60
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In October after 26 years of marriage my husband left me. He has just told me that he wants to sell the house, so he can buy a new property for himself. I am not sure where I stand legally, can he make me just leave? We have two sons, ages 22 and 20, they are both at University? Do they have to be taken into account or are they classed as independent? I have a low paid job, so will find it hard to get a new mortgage. He has a good job, so will be okay financially. He hasn't mentioned divorce yet, but I feel this will be the next thing. I have lived in my house for 26 years, so do not know what my options are if I have to sell. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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23 Jan 08 #11562 by Specialdad
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Theres no rush. He will have to start divorce proceedings first.

It will take the courts at least 2 years to decide what your and your ex's housing needs are.

Get a good sol asap and then try mediation for the financial arrangements to be sorted.

Dont panic.

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23 Jan 08 #11578 by Ladybelle
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Hi Lynne, I have a virtually identical situation to you and have no idea where my future lies. My husband walked out in October after 25 years of marriage. I have a 22 and 17 year old children living at home. He is paying the mortgage for the moment, but nothing legal has been set or formalised. I am disabled and only work part time and will only ever be able to work part time and will never be able to pay the mortgage myself let alone buy anywhere else.
Seems like you and I have a lot in common and an uncertain future. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

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23 Jan 08 #11599 by megan
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ME too
Husband left Nov after 30yrs.told me on wed last week I could put the house up for sale when ready. Told me friday he will stop paying all bills and only half mortgage. It seems there are ways of pushing you out if your ready or not. I just hope for you that your h has a consience.
Best of luck

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23 Jan 08 #11613 by Ladybelle
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Hi Megan. Seems like there is something in the water with all these husbands walking out on long marriages :(I hope you can get your husband to pay the whole mortgage at least.

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23 Jan 08 #11660 by megan
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thanks Annie
I pay everything else but he needs his money for dirty weekends wineing and dining her and staying in hotels. The mortgage and I am just an inconveniance that stop him moving on with his new life. Like you it's a long road ahead but I have 2 great grown up kids who offer all the help they can

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23 Jan 08 #11661 by swordsman again
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My wife walked out, refuses to pay the mortgage, and want's me to sell.

Not all about the men !

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