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10 Feb 08 #13427 by savoury
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Can anyone advise please, I feel desperate.
My marriage of 8 years just ended when my husband decided all in one day that he didnt love me and that he didnt want this way of life - no affairs either side. No build up just decided and left same day. He is now in house share accomodation at £200 a month all utlilities paid. He earns take home approx £1180 a month. He didnt leave me any money.
I am on disablement allownace, dla low rate, child tax credit and income support. Before he left he paid everything to do with the house. I paid for all kids (3) stuff and personal stuff because they are his stepkids.
Apart from me paying 2 weeks food a month he paid everything else. I have personal debts credit card, catalogues etc etc. My new income since he left is going up less than £30 a week to make up for the £700 odd he spent monthly! Can he do this to me and 3 stepkids? Our lives have been shattered finacially by it. It is going to affect both myself and the kids drastically. For a start I attened a group twice a week amongst other things. This is now going to cost me £22 in taxis because I have a public transport phobia. Thats just one of the small things. Husband would normally take me there and back. There are so many things that now have to stop. Is this just a fact of life and I should just accept because it is adding insult to injury and the process is very painful for me. Be grateful for advice. Not yet got a solicitor he only been gone 2 weeks but he definatelt isnt coming back.

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10 Feb 08 #13428 by Angel557
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Have you told Inland Revenue you are now single as you will need to make a claim as a single person for CTC , i don't know what sort of accomadiation you live in but if you rent you should be able to get help with that.As for your debts i have had to come to an arrangement with my creditors and i pay them back a set amount each month it's not huge but it keeps them sweet and off my back until my circumstances change.

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10 Feb 08 #13445 by TMax
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Hi welcome to the best info site going :)

ok go to this site and give these poeple a call they are outstanding its a charity so there are no costs, they helped me out with good advice so I cant shout their priases high enough www.cccs.co.uk/

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10 Feb 08 #13449 by savoury
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Hi and thanks
Done all the obvious and got the benefits sorted. Got debt counselling this week. More thinking...can he do this and can I claim antything from him when he puts in for divorce? Thanks
will check out that site

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