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20 Jul 07 #1493 by onlythedad
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I split up with my wife over a year ago now, we have one child together aged 5, and she has one from a previous relationship. Ever since, I've paid child support for my son, (by the way, she recieves nothing from the other dad, but threatened to make me pay CS for his child too!) She's been living in our house (4 bedroom), and recently agreed to sell, with us splitting the proceeds. The details weren't finalised, but I was suggesting that we clear CC debts (roughly £9k), then split the rest 60/40, leaving her with approx £30k, and me £20k. I've been living with my parents (4 of us in a 2 bedroom bungalow!) and would like to be able to move on and get myself my own place again one day. She has now said that she will be staying in the house until her daughter leaves school (3 years). She is saying that she will be re mortgaging, but how can she do this without paying me off? She has a job which pays quite well, but refuses to work more than 2 days a week. She is now saying that she wants more money from me, and will go to court to get it, (of course she will get legal aid, but i won't). I think I have been extremely reasonable, but when I fail to jump through hoops for her she goes mad, which was always the case anyway! Does anybody have any advice? I don't really want to invove solicitors, as I don't want to be paying for their holidays for the next year, but would it be worthwhile getting one? I've always thought that I could stand up in court and simply tell the judge the case and he would be reasonable, but then I suppose I'd be ripped to shreds by my wife's solicitor.
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No divorce application yet, waiting for 2 year separation. my income £30k, her's unknown. Married 4 years before separation, joint mortgage since marriage. In my opinion, £30k settlement would be a good deposit for her to start again, especially as the amount she has contributed to mortgage was minimal, and she came into the relationship with very little.

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