Have any of you tried to divorce collaboratively ? It is clear from many of the horror stories set out on these postings that it is often very hard to resolve matters in a interest based and dignified manner, but my own experience is that it is possible to achieve a "good divorce". I would like to hear from those of you who have gone down the collaborative route. How did you find it? How much did it cost? Was the negotiated agreement fair or ,at least, workable?
I'm worried that the collaborative approach does not appear to be available to those who qualify for public funding. Perhaps I'm wrong...have any of you tried to insist on this approach whilst you were pubilicly funded?
I've no experience of the collaborative route, but am pushing my wife that way.
Just wanted to say that by default people post when they need help or have a problem and readers are generally looking for help. People who have a collaborative partner don't generally need sites like this.
If I got through the system befoe you I'll let you know how things go (I'm not optimistic, though, as my wife won't even collaborate over the choice of tea or coffee).
Hope it goes well.
Thanks, I would hope that a collaborative lawyer would encourage your wife to rise above her emotions and engage in interest based negotiations (ie sort out any problems in a practical way, with the best interests of the children firmly in mind). Too many solicitors shy away from giving the right advice, they need the backbone to tell their client that they are being unreasonable if that is indeed the case.