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28 Feb 08 #15230 by soulmanuk
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just got my stbx form E and it states that she needs money to buy a property of her own. she has been living with her new partner for 16 months in his house. my son asked her why she needed this and she said it was in case her new relationship broke down she would have no where to live. surely that is not my problem because of the length of time she has lived with him and what happens if the relationship doesnt breakdown how can you claim for something that might never happen. maybe i should claim £3million off her has she might win the lottery. can you claim for something that might happen or is it a standard thing that is put on the form E to try to get a better settlement. his divorce is going through and it looks like he will have to give his ex money, that amount seems to be the same as what my stbx is claiming she needs. is it all part of a scam to make sure that both of the adulterying parties dont pay anything and one spouse ends up giving money to there ex to pay the other ex's divorce settlement. the only loser seems to be me. i have to pay a settlement to my stbx and they just give it to his ex, i suffer financially and the other 3 dont suffer at all.

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28 Feb 08 #15234 by BVG
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Hi soulmanUK,
I have just been through my FDR and exactly the same proposal was put forward by my barristor. I wanted to give up part of my pension and claim half the house. (it was a long marriage and 50/50 split is usually the outcome.

My X wanted to keep the house and leave my pension alone.

My barristor argued successfully that if my present relationship was to end I would have no capital to help me afford another dwelling. Coupled with this is the fact that I moved into my partners house which is really only intended for one person to live in. So my housing needs have not been met. So I wanted FH money to help purchase a bigger property. The DJ accepted the argument. My X did not, so now we go to the FH.

I agree that it does seem unfair but some circumstances do warrant this plea

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28 Feb 08 #15265 by soulmanuk
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she lives in an house which is the same size as mine so her housing needs are met. she left the FMH to go to live with him. if the relationship breaks down that is not my problem it is hers and her new partner. she has been living debt free and not paying anything only CSA whilst having holidays and nights out whilst me and the kids have had to go without. when the novelty wears off or she as to pay some money to the debt and both they lifestyles suffer and she goes after somebody else who could keep up this lifestyle why should me and the kids have to pay for her mistakes. we have done without for long enough and i cant afford to take more debt on to fund her lifestyle. she wanted the relationship with her new partner and break up the marriage i should not have to fund her and the next sucker she moves on to.

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28 Feb 08 #15279 by BVG
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I can understand your feeling of injustice and anger. However the DJ will take no notice of who is the guilty party and the reasons for the marriage breakup.

The form E will sort all the assets of both parties, pensions, liabilities, incomes of all involved etc. Only when all the detail and evidence is presented will who gets what portion be decided. The DJ will take into account the childs needs primarily so this will put you in a good position.

If you and your X cannot agree on a settlement, and I presume sols are now involved, it will prove expensive for both of you, especially if it goes on to a final hearing.

Just answer the form E honestly, dispassionatley and objectively and the outcome will be fair and by the facts so far it will be in your favour

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