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Worried about finance after 28 years of marriage

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27 Jul 07 #1586 by fio
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Hi Dobber - good advice. I really am trying to get my head round this whole situation and I want to have a clear idea of what may or may not happen. I haven't even confronted my husband at the moment, until I can think straight and understand what the outcome may be I am not ready to go forward. Its like looking into some sort of void, I can't see the final outcome.
I think Louises advice about making a list of goals is good.
This is why I asked the original question wondering what had happened to people in the same situation.
I am trying very hard to act normally.
It doesn't help that my husband has now become redundant. If I confront him now, its just going to add to his problems in finding a job, I think, or maybe it would help take the pressure off him - who knows.
Once there is some sort of confrontation then would be the time to get help from a mediation service, but even so I would like to have some idea of what the likely outcome may be so I can try and make a few plans for the future.

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28 Jul 07 #1609 by Sera
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My first divorce, my ex wanted to go to court, refused mediation... and ended up with a bill for £50,000

I'm all up for mediation, since I think that people lining their pockets, and profiting from our ignorance and sadness is shocking. Most of the stuff argued between lawyers, had no relevance to a settlement, there is 'Relate' for that.

I'm glad there's a growing trend for mediation, I found it hard that a man who once held my hand in a delivery-room suite, or shared my bed for 16 years, could now say: "don't talk to me, talk to my lawyer"!

Well done.

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