divorce

my husband has issued me with a divorce petition on my un reasonable behaviour; I have been advised to let the divorce go ahead but a letter will go to his solicitors stating if he will not be allowed to use these grounds in a settlement.My husband was the one who commited adultery, financially, physically and emotionally abused me, had me arrested, charged and endure a 15 month trial where I was found not guilty,succeeded in taking 1 of my children,what should I do? I am a childrens nurse, have a good pension and have sole ownership of the marital home which he hasnt lived in or contrbuted to.

Hello safe and welcome to the forum.
The reason for divorce rarely has any relevance or impact on the financial settlement which is dealt with as a separate issue from the legalities of dissolving the marriage. I would however use the opportunity on the 'acknowledge of service' to state that, whilst you agree that the marriage has irretrievably broken down, you disagree with the comments that your stbx has made about you. It would be unwise of you to defend the petition as this is just wasted money put into the hands of solicitors. I am sure others on here would be able to help you with the wording and help ensure that you do not have any costs of the divorce application awarded against you. With regard to financials you and your stbx will be required to disclose all your assets and liabilities prior to coming to a financial settlement. Again, others on here more knowledgeable than I should be able to guide you on what will happen in this process. Best wishes Aries xx