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i left my wife 12 months ago and the divorce will be finalised next week. We are still a long way from organising finances. My partner wants me to move in with her but i have been warned not to do this as my ex wife may be able to put a claim on her assets and her wage taken into consideration for child maintenance. Has anyone any advive or similar experience?

Yes, I think the best advice anyone can give you is to wait until your divorce and finances are settled before you live with a new partner. Take it from us the heartache and mess it is causing us I wouldn't wish on anyone! I adore my new partner and wouldn't change anything but if truth be known I wished we'd have thought about doing things slightly differently - we had the opportunity to wait but both needed a roof over our head and thought that we were allowed to do that but it seems that as long as you are keeping the roof over the ex-wifes head thats fine - you can go live in a cardboard box and you'd probably still be considered as having your needs met but live with a NP and she becomes involved too!!! Don't! Be patient and get a good nights sleep trust me you are gonna need it without the extra worry of your NP being involved!!

Good Luck!

What concerns me rather more about your post is that you seem to be implying that you are going to finalise your divorce while there are still financial issues which are left unresolved. As a personal opinion I would advise against this, because it can mean that your x2b could bring a claim against you at a later date and so you have a financial sword of Damocles hanging over your head. Read the postings on ' Financial claims post divorce ' especially the comments by Fiona.

As regards your NP - as I understand it, your wife cannot make a claim against her assets. I thought that a new partner is disregarded for child maintenance, but there is a funny reference on the CSA website to letting them know if your circumstances change, such as moving in with a new partner. I couldn't quite work that out, but it gives you a number you can contact. Your NP cannot be forced to pay spousal maintenance out of her income to your x2b but it can indirectly affect how much you might have to pay.

Without knowing more I can't say whether it might be prejudicial, but I would recommend that you get legal advice
on the possible implications of ending a marriage but leaving the financial issues up in the air.