Thanks, Louise, and yes like you I like to feel in control if at all possible.
I'm still struggling to understand though how me bringing a petition without proof of adultery which she claims she is going to contest, would have me influencing events. Surely it would fail at some stage in court?
I would have a much better chance with Unreasonable Behaviour, which I think you've said before. But what if our petitions cross, does this not confuse the legal process?
Like you, I wonder about her solicitor, but she hasn't called me today after the much trailed appointment and this is a change in her behaviour so I'm thinking the petition might be getting started.
Besides if she wants money she knows she needs to start the process. I'm going to be busy enough in the next few weeks either fighting eviction or finding accomodation, finding what to do with the dog, starting counselling, etc, etc. Personally I could wait two years or five, it's not like there's anyone else beating a path to my door!