What will I be left with ?

Can somebody please put my mind at rest??

As if it wasn't disastrous enough that my wife has decided to divorce me after 14(I thought Happy)years..I have been told that, as the parent likely to get custody of our 11 year old son,she will be entitled to a maintenance of 30% of my earnings(15% for my son and 15% for her)and that when we sell our home(wich we have to for financial reasons)the minimum that she will be awarded will be enough to put down as a deposit for a 2 bedroom place nearby.

Leaving me with.....what exactly ?!!!

I don't earn that much more than her and she only works 3 days per week when she could easily do 5..

Is my friend's solicitor right or actually and very hopefully wrong ??

I thank you all in advance for your advice !!

Hi Truffle. Its not as simple as that. All cases are different and you need to seek proper legal advice. No one can give you this sort of advice as hear say. Go and see a solicitor. Thats there job and why they exist. Chris.

Hi Chris

Each case is different, it depends on so many different things:-

income
equity in property
outgoings
childcare
pensions
debts
etc, etc

By the way I took was with my husband for 14 years and I thought they were happy, had no knowledge he didn't and was sleeping with a work colleague!! Life just ain't fair luv.

See legal help but don't be pushed into anything.

Thanx ChrisM,
I'm still at the getting over the shock stage and haven't seen a solicitor yet......duty looming!!
The guy who gave me this 'definate' info is believe it or not a matrimonial solicitor who should have known better than kick a man when he's down...
Obviously what I've been told is not as clear cut as I thought...and that at least makes me feel better for now.........time will tell !!

Hi beckster2,
Thanx for your reassurance too...
Sorry to hear of your similar situation and sad that it really POURS when it starts to rain....loosing your partner is bad enough,to then have all you have worked for taken away as well is going to be hard to get used to !!!!

Hi Truffle

It's not just pouring here luv, it's Victoria Falls!! lol

See even in advercity I can still laugh (possibly not spell though).

Each day I try to remember the old saying 'What doesn't break us makes us stronger' - it works somedays and keeps me cheerful and others I hate the saying. What works for you?

Becky

Sorry, a reply is better late than never and I am seriously LATE !!
What I try to think of is what a selfish self centered bxxxx she's been and how, actually, my life would be better without her...and more importantly with someone who actually cares for me. Just so sorry for my wonderful son who would like nothing more than his mum and dad to be together and that is what REALLY hurts !! The future will tell......