Thank you so much to everyone who has advised me so far.
I have been in denial/tried to avoid facing it for so long, and am now going to see my 'real' solicitor, not her sidekick anymore (because I'm on legal asistance)for the first time on Thursday- 3 months to the day after he left.
2 questions, if they have received the petition would they have to tell me- agreed that it could be served to my solicitor not me- the reason I ask is that, I don't know why, having had the draft ages ago, no petition has been issued, maybe just another part of his psychological/emotinal bullying.
Also, we sold a second property- investment property 2 years ago, because of my wrecked credit rating- because of many factors 1) we could not open a joint account fast enough to put the funds into ( he has not let me have access to joint accounts since 2001- married 21 years) I, stupidly trusting him, let it go into his account.
There was 145 thousand, now there is only 25 thousand left. I know where about 40 has gone but no more. Everytime I asked for my share he said I wasn't having it. Does anyone get what I'm saying- Everytime I ask where it's gone he says 'I don't have that information'
Could anyone please advise me of my position?
Also could I add that my solicitor, without a proper meeting was freaked out by this and still is- just he has a GREAT BIG LAWYER or so he thinks- always the bully