A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce

01202 805020

Lines open: Monday to Friday 9am-5pm
Call for FREE expert advice & service info

What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.

Do you need help sorting out a fair financial settlement?

Our consultant service offers expert advice and support to help you reach agreement on a fair financial settlement quickly, and for less than a quarter of the cost of using a traditional high street solicitor.

Looking for guidance

  • Victoria4
  • Victoria4's Avatar Posted by
  • Junior Member
  • Junior Member
03 Apr 12 #321433 by Victoria4
Topic started by Victoria4
My husband and I are currently in IVA''s.

In brief: My husband''s ex wife went to work abroad two years ago. His son of 15 came to live with us and is still with us. We are struggling financially and the maintenance she is paying us is not enough to support my stepson. We were advised to apply for maintenance through REMO. Which we have done and an order was granted in a UK court in our favour in Jan 2012. The lengthy process has begun and the papers are with the Ghanian authorities.

The problem we have now she was obviously not happy with what we have done and has instructed a solicitor to act on her behalf to avoid paying. In the process she has also threatened us with the costs... To add to our dilemma she has now resigned from her job and is returning to the uk in Sept 2012

We do not have a solicitor and the family division of the court dealing with our order informed us that this was not necessary.

If she wants to take us to court that is fine, we have nothing to hide and have done everything by the book we only want what we are legally entitled too. but we have no money due to our IVA''s can we be made to pay her court costs?? is really my question?

Surely if we have done the right thing? the courts will see this?

I''m really worried we have had enough issues with money and her to last us a lifetime, I certainly do not want anymore!!!

Anyone? Please help?

  • jonathancj
  • jonathancj's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
03 Apr 12 #321450 by jonathancj
Reply from jonathancj
What does she say she can take you to court for?

  • Victoria4
  • Victoria4's Avatar Posted by
  • Junior Member
  • Junior Member
03 Apr 12 #321455 by Victoria4
Reply from Victoria4
basically, it is because we have gone through the proper channels to have her maintenance increased? And for once someone is on our side..... She wants to have our order stopped as she does not agree to paying more to us and pleads poverty. She will not declare how much she is earning although she has been summoned by the Ghanian courts to do so....which tells us something and why go to all this much trouble of hiring a solicitor? She is also delaying the proceedings and as I said before she has handed in her notice abroad and is returning the UK in order to stop the process. The she is coming after us for more maintenance for herself and their son. As for maintenance for herself we know that this will not be possible because when the Consent Order was sisigned a ''Clean Break'' was agreed between them. She said she is going to make sure that we pick up all the costs as she will not be working?!!

However, We know for a fact that she is earning twice the amount we do and its tax free! She owes us but I dont think there i anything we can do.... it all a bit too much...

Moderators: wikivorce teamrubytuesdaydukeyhadenoughnowTetsSheziLinda SheridanForsetiMitchumWhiteRoseLostboy67WYSPECIALBubblegum11