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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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07 Apr 12 #322252 by perin123
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Thanks again, when does the nightmare end????

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08 Apr 12 #322394 by perin123
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Just another thought??

If ex is asking for £10,000, can I say you have already had £7,500 so I will give you £2,500?

I know the house belongs to us both and ex is legally entitled to his share (as his sol told me) but there is just no money? If I sell there will be even less after all fees?

How can his sol ask me to pay him money when she knows he pays £0 child maintenance?

None of it makes sense??

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08 Apr 12 #322396 by sillywoman
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Solicitors act for their client, therefore, your husband has asked her to try and get money out of you and she is obeying his instructions, but probably saying to him that he is unlikely to succeed.

As regards child maintenance, yes he is being a pig, a selfish rotten nasty pig, but he is getting away with it like many appear to do.

Just ignore the letter Perin.

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08 Apr 12 #322397 by Shoegirl
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Ignore it as SW says. He can''t get blood out of a stone.

I don''t think he is entitled to anything it''s based on needs. The face remains he is not going to take you to court for 10k. If he does it is madness.

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08 Apr 12 #322402 by soulruler
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Seems totally bonkers to me a house worth approx £133 with £105 outstanding, savings in your name virtually gone (and I am assuming tht he declared his savings on financial e).

If you had some sort of valuation to which you both agreed and that was some months ago it is going to be out of date anyway (and houses as well we know aren''t selling well).

What appears to have been forgotten as well are the costs of a sale (unless they are taken into account with the estimated value of the house - less selling costs).

If your stbx isn''t paying any child maintenence then I would think that the best thing would be to apply at the moment to the CSA and get them to assess.

Unless there are any real other assets which you haven''t mentioned I really cannot understand why your stbx is allowing himself to get in debt with solicitors costs as they are a loan and are supposed to be paid back.

I don''t see why you should offer your husband the small amount of capital that you have left and would even say why mention it now as you are going to need it for basic utilities and to support yourself and your child (especially if the CSA assess that he cannot afford child maintenence.

I agree with the others don''t reply and maybe that way his solicitors and he might get the message.

You can be sure that if you offer him a small capital sum that he will take it and then you will have nothing to fall back on.

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08 Apr 12 #322405 by sillywoman
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If he had wanted £500,000 out of you whether you had it or not, he could ask a solicitor to write you a letter!

Ignore,ignore, ignore, but get that divorce sorted and get rid of him. You will feel so much better if you do that.

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08 Apr 12 #322407 by hawaythelads
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Your reply should be as I am sure you are aware the main consideration in law will be the financial provision and housing of the child.
As you should also be aware that your client has left the child to live with another woman.Has also given up his employment to start up a business with his new partner as a rather transparent tool to deny any earnings and thus not have to pay child maintenace to provide for his child.
Your client increased the mortgage to pocket £7500 shortly before leaving to live with his new partner and his housing needs are being met.
To meet the housing needs of our child I will require all the £28000 equity remaining and would also require the £7500 to be paid back that he increased the mortgage by to provide for our child that he has pocketed personally.
I will also require a proposal on the amount of child maintenance that your client will pay and the amount of spousal maintenance he is proposing to pay on top of this so that I can afford the mortgage payments to keep the child in a home.

If you are going to negotiate start with your hand outstretched behind your back at arms length.That way you won''t get yanked across the table when you do get shaking on a deal..

You can cut and paste that as a reply that''s why I never put one Feck in it ;)

All the best
Pete xx

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