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Fear my ex will discover my new address

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30 Apr 12 #327480 by Cornfield
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I am due to see my solicitor next week in preparation for commencing with a divorce petition for unreasonable behaviour. I have offered a financial proposal to my ex which I believe he is going to accept. This consists of a financial settlement in his favour with a Clean Break order application in exchange for an uncontested divorce to provide an "easy" divorce for me. When it comes to me submitting my financial situation I have to declare where I am now living. As I moved 300 miles away from my ex for my peace of mind will this mean he will find out my whereabouts from the information I submit to my solicitor and the courts? I am very concerned about this because I would not like to have to move again to ensure my peace of mind

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30 Apr 12 #327487 by ditchedagain11
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Hi

Not sure on this one as you have to put your address on the D8 form and his. Have you mentioned this point to your solicitor?

Plenty of good folks on here will be able to advise you the right way forward. Im not so sure the courts will accept a Petition with the address showing ''c/o your solicitor''..in fact im sure they wont..

Take care and try and stay calm. Your int he right place for support

DA

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30 Apr 12 #327492 by Cornfield
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I am aware that I will have to state my new address on the forms submitted but was thinking surely there could be "secrecy" clauses for people in my situation who do not want their whereabouts to be disclosed to their ex for their protection?

I have not had my meeting with my solicitor yet. I did obtain some free advice from a different solicitor when I left the matrimonial home but I am going to deal with a different solicitor

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30 Apr 12 #327499 by timetoheal
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It is possible to submit all paperwork for the divorce without having your address on it. To do this your solicitor needs to get an order of the court before the divorce paperwork is submitted. To get the order you need to submit a signed affadavit to the court stating the reasons why you want your address to be kept secret. The reasons do have to be quite serious and if there is police involvement this needs to be stated. The court may give the order but they can refuse it. It will cover all paperwork including Statement of Arrangements for Children. The order needs to be mentioned in the divorce petition to explain why the address is not present. If your paperwork is submitted with an address your ex will see it. With the order from the court you can submit paperwork c/o solicitor

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30 Apr 12 #327502 by Cornfield
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Thanks for your reply - I fear my reasons may not be sufficient if they have to be substantial as they would not include police intervention

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30 Apr 12 #327512 by timetoheal
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Your solicitor can advise if your reasons are sufficient and if it is worth pursuing. If you would feel it necessary to move again if your ex had your address and have moved so far away to get away from him you have some grounds. Obtaining the order does not necessitate you going to court as it is your affadavit that the order is based on.
Be careful during financial disclosure as it is easy to disclose your address accidentally by something as simple as providing a copy of a payslip. Anything that gets submitted to the court can be seen by ex.

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01 May 12 #327581 by Cornfield
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Many thanks for your response I pray that I do have grounds as you stated. I am willing to sacrifice 50k of equity to maintain the secrecy of my whereabouts and hoping he feels no reason to seek revenge for me leaving him. Your comments have made me feel a little more relaxed about this whole thing and thanks for the tips regarding other paperwork to be submitted

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