My husband and I are seperated, he left the Royal Navy after 20 years and did not take it well. For the last two years we have had an awful time and, for my sanity and my son''s, I have decided enough it enough. He works 50 miles away and I have to leave the house at the weekend so he can see his son. However my question is that he wants me to not touch his Navy Pensions. He also has a small war pension as he did his knee in. He house shares and his monthly income, after tax of over £3000 a month. This will go up as he now has the permanent contract and a pay rise. He has been crying and keeps on about the fact that I asked him to leave, he was prepared to stay here and keep trying (as if two years wasn''t enough) and that as I asked him to leave then I should be nice and not touch his pension.
He is constantly on about it, by phone, face to face, by text and its always about his pension. He spent 20 years in the navy and we were married for 13 1/2 years while he was in. He says that if I don''t touch it then he will pay my £600 a month until my son is 18, he''s 10 now. Its awful, its unfair and I have an appt with a solicitor in two weeks, but even if I wanted to, can I refuse to take part of his pension?
It is a housing associaton for ex-forces family, my son and I are here now, my daughter has left home now. I may have to leave the house as he is the tenancy and, even though I was in the Army it wasn''t enough to confirm is I can stay. So the house is nothing to do with things, thank goodness and that would just be more hassle.