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02 Jul 12 #340575 by Kitsi
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Just got Nisi both have solicitors married 12 yrs together 14 no kids, He left me for my friend jsut befire Smas and will only communicate through lawyers. Pays me less than half of what it cost to run this house by ttrciking me into ''lets cut down and save for a holday'' while he had alreday rented another house for himself (an expensive one)
I am responsible apparently for getting all estate agents in to value place, getting quotes for doing it up staying in while it is done up and for everty time I need to ask him something about house I have to go to my sols who go to his who got to him and back again and it costs me £75! All because he eill not talk. Today the hall flooded I had to take up carpet and call in welsh water. They are very angry he has tampered with manhole cover and want to fine us. Apparently he didn''t have authorisation to touch their mh cover.
I texted him direct to ask him what his preferred options were and exactly what HAD he done on their property. No reply. Been hours now. How am I supposed to pay for getting someone in? I know he is getting the messages and it will benefit us both if the house sells for as much as it can. I am not feeling guilty now. I am feeling MAD. WHY is my time worth less than his? HOW am I supposed to do all these things on my own. I am a quick learner and no diy phobe but what can I do right here and now to get him to either agree to talk to Welsh water himself or come and do his share in the house?
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02 Jul 12 #340576 by NoWhereToTurnl
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If you know his address and phone number, why not give them to Welsh water?

I am sorry you find yourself in this awful position, I had the same Xmasn 2004 & no elec/heating for 5 days, its a lonely time.

Take care,
NWTT x

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02 Jul 12 #340577 by Jamsandwiches
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Hi Kitsi, have you got any house insurance? If so it should cover the damage. Trouble is if he is at fault...then it may not apply :(

Depending on how bad it is you may need dehumidifiers. I had a house flood so I sympasise how awful it is.

Best thing to do is first check insurance. if you have none then hire a skip if there is lots of damage and get rid of all the soggy wet stuff asap. Photograph it and make an inventory of what was lost incase you need to show evidence or can claim in some way in the future. Big Hugs as I know this is the last thing you need!

It doesn''t seem to me as if he is being fair over finances atall. If he wants the home sold at the max value he will have to do his part physically and financially. He needs to remember he stands to lose some equity as well if he won''t help. can solicitors advise you on your next steps if he won''t cooperate? ask first on here though as people may have been in a similar situation and know what to do.

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02 Jul 12 #340581 by raybird
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have you phoned the help line on this site ? xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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02 Jul 12 #340583 by Kitsi
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thanks so much
that is so helpful
yes, have insurance but his actions may have invalidated it so now I live in a big house with no carpet downstairs at a time when we should be doing it up for sale
Plus he has moved right out of the welsh water area and I don''t think that they will pursue him to Wiltshire.

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02 Jul 12 #340585 by Jamsandwiches
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Married with children or not I believe you are entitled to Spousal maintenence. Not sure how you are sorting out finances through a Consent Order or the court but with proof it was his fault ie: back up from that Water Board I''m sure the judge would agree he needs to pay you the damage costs.(a solicitor called Johnathan on here may be able to tell you) I''m sure his behavior won''t be favorable to a judge and remember whether he wants to pay or not, he has to pay what the law says he has to.

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02 Jul 12 #340586 by Jamsandwiches
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just looked up the name of the solicitor on here: ''johnathancj'' he was very helpful to me..he is offline now but maybe send him a private IM for help..

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