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14 Jul 12 #343077 by Talulahbelle10
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I have my first appointment on Monday 16th July and only received my stbx financial statement yesterday (Friday). It has been sent from his solicitor and it says that it has been approved but not yet signed by him. I am representing myself and as much as i didn''t want to, I sent him my documents a couple of weeks ago. His form E is very vague and missing quite a bit of information, one important piece is the secured personal loan that he has against the house which he is consistently defaulting on and is in considerable arrears with and which was also the reason the bank refused to allow me to buy him out due to it leaving me with a bad credit history. I also know that he has taken out many loans and is also in arrears with them, he also owes council tax and water rates and he has the Inland Revenue after him for money he owes. Obviously this will have left no time for the judge to read through all the documents properly and I have not been able to get my questionnaire ready.

After reading a few posts on here saying that the judge is quite lenient with people sending forms in late I am worried that this will go against me as he has had plenty of time to read mine and get his questionaire in. I have nothing to hide so cannot see what he would be able to find to go against me. He is trying to force me to sell the house or give him his share of the equity, it''s a very long story but he has put me In a position where I am unable to buy him out. I have been paying for the house and all of the outgoings for the past year as he said that he could not afford to pay his share anymore but looking at his bank statements he seems to have enough money to spend thousands of gambling. He also won eleven thousand pound in a poker tournament last year which he says he used to pay debts that he owed but after seeing his statement it doesn''t read like that.

Has anyone else had any experience of this sort of situation and what should I expect at my first appointment under the circumstances? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.


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