Today we finally agreed settlement - two weeks before FH.
79% equity in house after sale
250 medical appliances
There some other bits agreed.
All in all - quite happy with result. I had got very stressed about it all in the run-up to this and my Solicitor done a runner days ago so felt abandoned.
I dont know why I was stressing so much - because I do realise that this is a good outcome compared to some - but I think when you are emotionally involved you sometimes cant see the wood for the trees and focus on things that perhaps you could let go of.
I have to say that without the helpline (Carl in particular) I really dont think I would have got through this as well as I did - and I realise I am luckier than some as have legal aid and Solicitor which some dont.
So - a HUGE thankyou to all on here - especially the helpline - it saved me many a distrubed nights sleep - thankyou.
Two years ago I thought this would be over in six months time - how wrong I was! I also went in with some unrealistic expectations which were soon put right - but when you havent been through this you dont know what to expect - so it was a good learning curve.
If I could give any advice to those in this situation it would be - listen to legal advice - post your problems on here - before you make any decisions because mostly you will be making them when emotionally charged and that is never a good idea! Dont try to rush things - there are certain process''s that just have to be done in certain time-scales - be patient.
Whilst I have mostly got what I wanted - there were some issues that I didnt get - but I have realised that no-one gets 100% of what they want - its about compromise - and its difficult to do that with someone you are divorcing - but rise above your feelings towards that person and cut your loss''s when appropriate - dragging things out for minor issues really doesnt pay - it just fills Solicitors pockets - and you suffer more stress than you really need to - know when to walk away.
I feel relieved that I can now move on and fill the space that legal stuff has lived in for far too long!
Those of you in desperate times - dont give up - be strong - your time will come and you will move on.
Very kind of you to reply. I had thought no-one had read this and felt a little dismayed - so its nice to know it has been read! Maybe others have read it but just not felt a need to comment - anyway its lovely that you replied.
This forum has been brilliant for me - great advice and non-judgmental (well most of the time!) and I am not sure how I would have got through it all without the expert knowledge on here - especially Carl on the helpline - I have rung so much that he now knows my voice without me even saying who I am!