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24 Aug 12 #351757 by carer
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Hi all,

Today we finally agreed settlement - two weeks before FH.

79% equity in house after sale
500 SM
250 medical appliances
550 CM
260,000 pension

There some other bits agreed.

All in all - quite happy with result. I had got very stressed about it all in the run-up to this and my Solicitor done a runner days ago so felt abandoned.

I dont know why I was stressing so much - because I do realise that this is a good outcome compared to some - but I think when you are emotionally involved you sometimes cant see the wood for the trees and focus on things that perhaps you could let go of.

I have to say that without the helpline (Carl in particular) I really dont think I would have got through this as well as I did - and I realise I am luckier than some as have legal aid and Solicitor which some dont.

So - a HUGE thankyou to all on here - especially the helpline - it saved me many a distrubed nights sleep - thankyou.

Two years ago I thought this would be over in six months time - how wrong I was! I also went in with some unrealistic expectations which were soon put right - but when you havent been through this you dont know what to expect - so it was a good learning curve.

If I could give any advice to those in this situation it would be - listen to legal advice - post your problems on here - before you make any decisions because mostly you will be making them when emotionally charged and that is never a good idea! Dont try to rush things - there are certain process''s that just have to be done in certain time-scales - be patient.

Whilst I have mostly got what I wanted - there were some issues that I didnt get - but I have realised that no-one gets 100% of what they want - its about compromise - and its difficult to do that with someone you are divorcing - but rise above your feelings towards that person and cut your loss''s when appropriate - dragging things out for minor issues really doesnt pay - it just fills Solicitors pockets - and you suffer more stress than you really need to - know when to walk away.

I feel relieved that I can now move on and fill the space that legal stuff has lived in for far too long!

Those of you in desperate times - dont give up - be strong - your time will come and you will move on.

Carer

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23 Sep 12 #357433 by rubytuesday
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Carer,

A little late, but just wanted to say that IM pleased you have finally reached an outcome you are both "happy" with.

Thank you for updating us, its always useful to hear final outcomes, and your post contains great advice that will help others :)

Ruth

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23 Sep 12 #357458 by carer
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Hi Ruth,

Very kind of you to reply. I had thought no-one had read this and felt a little dismayed - so its nice to know it has been read! Maybe others have read it but just not felt a need to comment - anyway its lovely that you replied.

This forum has been brilliant for me - great advice and non-judgmental (well most of the time!) and I am not sure how I would have got through it all without the expert knowledge on here - especially Carl on the helpline - I have rung so much that he now knows my voice without me even saying who I am!

Carer

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23 Sep 12 #357461 by leanng
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hi carer

i read it and also read your first posts to see what your situation was.

it is good to be able to read the outcomes although i do realise each situation is unique.

pleased that you got a good outcome. there is hope for the rest of us.

you can now start to live your life and move on...

good luck

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