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Is this a fair offer?

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27 Aug 12 #352205 by mbird
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I have put forward an offer to my stbx : keeps house and all equity-40-50k ,cm and 25% of my police pension.
Married nearly 7 years. 2 children under 10.
My questions are is this fair? Also I she refuses and pushes to take it to fdr can I apy for costs if she ends up settling for this or less?

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27 Aug 12 #352214 by mbird
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Please?

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27 Aug 12 #352219 by sillywoman
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From reading your posts your ex wants 50% of the pension. YOu have been in the job 10 years and married for 8 of those.

I would give her 50% of the pension, because it is only 50% of the pension accrued up to the Absolute date, so the longer the marriage is drawn out, the more pension will be accrued.

You are lucky she isn''t going for SM. So just accept that and move on with your partner and new life.

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27 Aug 12 #352225 by mbird
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No I am not "lucky" she isn''t going for sm! She netted 10k more than I did last year, so how do you work that out? So you are saying that me walking away with just 50% of my pension is fair???

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27 Aug 12 #352229 by mbird
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Is ruby Tuesday on?

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27 Aug 12 #352231 by sillywoman
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50% of your pension to date - you still have another 20 years work where you will be paying into your pension of which she will not be entitled to any.

I mean if she is not working now, she could go after SM. Some women do rightly, or wrongly do try to claim SM.

I just think more court appearances and costs and stress for an extra 25% of a ten year pension is not good for you.

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27 Aug 12 #352233 by Fiona
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I don''t know if you have given the details before but no one can say whether an offer is fair without knowing the particulars;

the value of any assets (including pensions, investments and savings) held in joint and sole names

respective incomes from all sources

any liabilities (debts, outstanding mortgage etc)

the duration of the marriage + any cohabitation before marriage

respective ages

the number and ages of any children and how many nights they are to stay with each parent

any disabilities

You may not wish to post private finical information on a website which is fair enough but without the details we can''t really help.

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