Dukeys advice new thread- fair offer?

Its still a big disjointed block of text most people especially the ones you would want to answer just wont bother to read it.

Double space, are you a police officer?.

What is your net monthly income, i can`t see it anywhere.

I am a police officer yes. Sorry dukey, I tried my best, maybe this thread represents what a mess my head is in. Thanks anyway for trying

Your respective ages;

Me 35 stbx 37

The number of children you have and their ages;

2 children 10 & 5

How many nights the children spend with each parent;

Please state the number of overnights with each parent

The length of your marriage and any period of pre marriage cohabitation;

Married 9 years ago-separated 3 years ago


Your respective incomes;

She is now in receipt of Income Support, after giving up her job 6 weeks ago. please state your own income!


Your respective outgoings;

Currently living in rented house with partner.
Please state your outgoings!!

Your assets - both soley held and joint;
Just my pension (CETV of pension is??)
The house has 40k equity in it
She kept the car

Your liabilities.
I have spent 11k so far and am escalating deeper into debt bankrolling this divorce please list ALL liabilities - credit cards, remaining mortgage, loans, car finance, etc etc

I have been with new partner for 10 months now -





So I offered her: house and equity transfer. Car and 25% of my pension.
I want to know is this fair? If she refuses can I apply for costs?

I don''t think she will accept as she is hell bent on seeing my partners finances(questionnaire asked for new partners wage slips, bank statements, CETV etc etc) I havent provided these and I think she will want to drag this to fdr to try and get judge to order this (she told me this months ago)
HELP


MBIRD - in order for our community to help and offer advice, you will need to complete the above information as fully as you can, without proper information, our members can not help you,

Ruth

mbird I`m not trying to be harsh just help, the devil is in the detail as you must be aware of after paying high solicitors costs,

So what is your net monthly income.

Oh and if i ever commit a heinous crime i want you to arrest me, ill be away in a heart beat on a technicality the way you write

Your respective ages;

Me 35 stbx 37

The number of children you have and their ages;

2 children 10 & 5

How many nights the children spend with each parent;

Please state the number of overnights with each parent
2 nights with me every other weekend
The length of your marriage and any period of pre marriage cohabitation;

Married 9 years ago-separated 3 years ago


Your respective incomes;

She is now in receipt of Income Support, after giving up her job 6 weeks ago. please state your own income!
I net £1900 but csa taken from my salary, at my request

Your respective outgoings;

Currently living in rented house with partner.
Please state your outgoings!!
my outgoings are about £3000 now with legal fees,
Your assets - both soley held and joint;
Just my pension (CETV of pension is??) 77k but police pension so probably 125kmost
The house has 40k equity in it
She kept the car

Your liabilities.
I have spent 11k so far and am escalating deeper into debt bankrolling this divorce please list ALL liabilities - credit cards, remaining mortgage, loans, car finance, etc etc
i owe about 20k with loans etc, outstanding mortgage98,000

I have been with new partner for 10 months now -





So I offered her: house and equity transfer. Car and 25% of my pension.
I want to know is this fair? If she refuses can I apply for costs?

I don''t think she will accept as she is hell bent on seeing my partners finances(questionnaire asked for new partners wage slips, bank statements, CETV etc etc) I havent provided these and I think she will want to drag this to fdr to try and get judge to order this (she told me this months ago)
HELP

THANK YOU SO SO MUCH RUTH AND DUKEY, YOU GUYS AR E MY LIFELINE ATM....
MBIRD - in order for our community to help and offer advice, you will need to complete the above information as fully as you can, without proper information, our members can not help you,

Ruth

Can you break down your outgoings into rent, utilities, CM, loan repayments, etc? Your outgoings far exceed your income, I assume your gf makes an equal contribution to the household outgoings?

Can you detail the loans further? What of that debt was accrued during the marriage, and what has accrued post-separation?


How old is your CETV? If it is more than 12 months old, I suggest you request an up-to-date one. Does the figure quoted include your lump sum that police officers receive upon retirement?

£350 rent
£280 cm
£40 gas
£35 electric
£50 phone & broad band
£30 sky
£100 petrol
£20 tax
£30 insurance car
£200 loans and credit cards
£1200 solicitors
£250 grocery
£20 prescription
£15 dental
£40 kids entertainment
£40 lunches
£100 kids bdays and xmas etc
£35 gym

I know my outgoings are bigger, my gf is heavily subsidising me..
My debts are one which is £8k and is a charging order on the house, was for home improvements and is £5 a month. the other £10 of debts is post separation
Cetv was done in Feb and is inclusive of lump sum I think. Thanks Ruby.