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03 Sep 12 #353637 by mbird
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Hi guys, just thought I would give you an update on my position. Apparently according to her solicitor she is prepared to accept the house, equity, 25% of my pension,cm, BUT she also wants £150 a month for 5 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OMG I thought it was April fools! He has this made this an open offer as if it goes to court and she has to pay stat charge to lsc he has to protect her interests ha ha. Unbelievable I have replied and said, no way, you have until the end of the week to accept former offer or I WILL claim costs at court as her earning capacity is more and have given generous offer already.
Dukey I think you were right about the realms of having her cake and eating it! This is unreal, dukey have I done the right thing????

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04 Sep 12 #353683 by mbird
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04 Sep 12 #353688 by dukey
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This is one of those where the head says take the deal, be done with, save the court stress and the risk of a judgement.

My heart says no see what the judge has to say at FDR, what do you have to lose by doing that?.

Personally i would have gone to FDR, but that is me, the best deals are those people can live with, not what other people think.

If you can live with this and sleep at night, then its a good deal.

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04 Sep 12 #353703 by mbird
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Thanks dukey, thing is though, I can''t afford it, and also she netred 10k more than me last year before giving up work, so when she does go back to work she will be about 200 a month better off than me.

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04 Sep 12 #353716 by mbird
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Dukey I wonder

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04 Sep 12 #353739 by mbird
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Dukey I wonder

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04 Sep 12 #353756 by happyagain
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Hi mbird,
Glad to see things have progressed! You absolutely did the right thing, don''t doubt yourself. You cannot afford this so it is right that you refused this. She is taking the proverbial. If it goes to FDR I am certain that this would be the Absolute worst deal you could get. But there''s a good chance you would come out of this a lot better off :)So sit tight and wait. Don''t accept something now for the sake of ending matters a few months earlier when it will affect you for the foreseeable future and potentially put you into debt for a lot longer.

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