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19 Oct 07 #4931 by spider31
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I am going through a divorce.

I have 2 Kids, one 3 and the other 5.

I earn approx £(removed sal), my wife does not work.

We were married for 3.5 years.

I am paying the full child maintenance that the CSA advise.

My ex is asking for £980P/M spousal maintenance.

Is the fair?

My wife could work part time and I would be more than happy to give her some spouse maintenance while the kids are not at school. eg work part time now then she could work fulltime in 2 years.

She can work and could earn good money.

As for the assests, she is getting everything. She well get arround £45K I will get 0.


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19 Oct 07 #4933 by Tinny
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Hi spider
There is no fairness in divorce and it would be impossible for anyone here to answer that one.

I replied to another poster earlier who was also married for 3 1/2 years and I stated there that it would be seen as a short marriage and that as there were no children involved each party would take out what they had before marriage. Your case is different as there are children involved and you will have a responsibilty there by law. This bit you probably know as you are already have CSA information.

I also think you need to post a bit more information about the family home regarding equity and other assets you might have.

Hopefully the more knowledgable here can point you in the right direction.


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