I have been divorced for 2 years and have spent the last year going through a solicitor. A proposal was put forward which was rejected by my ex and he has put forward a new proposal which I don't wish to accept. Due to the ongoing feesI am no longer using my solicitor and spoke to a McKenzie friend. he advised me to go back with a new proposal and make it clear how this would be affordable for me and how it could be achieved with what I am requesting from my ex. Has anybody had a similar experience? If he refuses again, do I take this this to court? I'd appreciate to hear any views and advice.
At the risk of stating the blindingly obvious - if you and your x2b cannot agree on finances, then it is necessary to involve the Court to resolve the matter for you.
Going to Court can be expensive, especially if lawyers get involved !
But you know your STBX better than anyone and you will know better than me whether he is making a genuine attempt to negotiate or just playing silly beggars.
But there is one practical step that most people can do for themselves and will save you time and money.
The Court ( and therefore your lawyer ) must have full details of your financial position. If you can get together the information your lawyer needs, it is cheaper for you to do it than rely on your lawyer. And you can do this while you are still negotiating, so it saves time.
If you can get a copy of Form E ( which you can probably download from this site ) then you will have a good idea of the information a Court will require.
Thanks for your reply. We have actually exchanged our Form E and supporting documents and a year later have not reached an agreement. He declined a request to go to mediation and I have now had to stop using my lawyer as it is no longer affordable. And yes, I do believe he is playing silly buggers!