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My ex's solicitor appears to be a bully :(

  • Charlie1984
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10 Mar 20 #511737 by Charlie1984
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So I am representing myself as I have no money. I have had to move from the marital home, get a new job, move in with family etc.

So today I got the questionnaire and the statement with issues from my ex's solicitor ready for next week's court date.

Along with a letter from the solicitor...

They are basically pulling part my statement of issues and questionnaire and asking me to amend my questionnaire prior to the hearing and if I don't then they will make sure the court will.

From my understanding it is up to the court which questions they want to take forward so I'm guessing from the aggressive tone of the letter they are trying to force my hand on taking an offer of £5k (We were together over 10 years).

Do I need to do anything else prior to the hearing or do I just turn up with all my paperwork? Also should the court be made aware of the letter??

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10 Mar 20 #511738 by .Charles
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The purpose of the questionnaire is to raise questions which are relevant to financial disclosure that the form E does not cover.

It is common for certain types of questions to be deleted at the FDA and it is common to try to sort these out before the hearing to save court time. It's nothing personal.

The letter to you is not confidential unless it says 'without prejudice' at the top. I would expect the solicitor to refer to the letter themselves when explaining which of the questions you have asked they wish to be deleted.

It's a steep learning curve and there is no forcing of hand as it's only the FDA. Any negotiations can wait until the disclosure process has concluded and the matter is nearing the FDR hearing.


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