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Is it possible to claim the expenses of a wedding?

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23 Oct 07 #5167 by lawstudent
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Is it possible to claim the expenses of a wedding from the other party i.e say if the brides father paid for majority of things on the wedding day?

I always thought that the wedding itself is seen as a gift from a parent to a child......am i right in thinking this?

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23 Oct 07 #5178 by Monitor441
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Law Student.
Can you give more information as I don't understand what you are trying to claim and for what reason

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23 Oct 07 #5179 by Louise11
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Hi law student

I take it this was an expensive wedding and now its headed for divorce proceedings???? I think you may have an arguement if it is a very very short marriage! But i think it would depend on why its come to an end!
As monitor sez it would be better if you give some more information to this post, then maybe we could come up with the valid reasons as to why you want this money back!

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23 Oct 07 #5181 by Sera
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When I got married in January, I was lead to believe it was for LIFE! (Not just until he changed his mind!) ..... if I'd known that the marriage was only for six months, then I wouldn't have spent £1,600 on a dress, pure silk, hand embroidered in India.
With shoes, accesories, etc, my dress costs were over £2,000 None of which can be worn again.

Add to that the additional £3,000 I spent on reception, cake, towards honeymoon etc, then I'd like an answer to 'if' I can re-claim also!

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24 Oct 07 #5187 by lawstudent
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Well basically, the marriage lasted only a year and their are no joint assets, children etc

The bride's father paid for the majority of the cost of the wedding day apart from a few things (but the grooms father paid for a lavish engagement party)

The bride is now saying that (after the divorce has been made absolute) she has to pay her father back the cost of the wedding (£40K) which she wishes to recover from the groom.....although they have no evidence of spending 40k!

Is this possible? as i always thought a parent who paid for a childs wedding was simply seen as a gift?

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24 Oct 07 #5192 by gone1
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I dont think it is posible. A wedding reception is just a party. If you throw a party and later decide you shouldnt have done it you cant have the money back. It was there choice to spend 40K. They must be totaly barking to spend this sort of cash anyway. Now I am not a rich man and I have never had that sort of money. If I had a daughter (which I dont anymore) I would rather give them the money than have a 40K piss up. It just seems a total waste of money to me. But then a tenner is a lot to me and 40K is just pure holywood. Chris.

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24 Oct 07 #5194 by Louise11
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Hi there,

Well if i were in this brides shoes, i would have a go at claiming something back especially if it is the grooms fault that this marriage has come to an end. Say hes had an affair, then is it fair he shouldnt have to pay something towards this farsical pantomine? Hey but thats me, I love a good argument! If its down to her behaviour that the marriage is at an end, then well, she will have to lump it!
She would have to put it in the form of a debt, but courts see family loans as "soft loans"! I.E. its not a major thing, its not like a debt to a company. Debts between family members are treated with the attitude "well if you pay them back well its fine, if you dont thats fine too! In other words if she had receipts ect for any costs of the wedding then she could probably show them as debts to the courts and maybe she might get half of them paid out of any assets.
But to be honest I think shes skating on very thin ice, like previous posters have said it was a gift.
Hey but doesnt that mean, that because its a short marriage you take out what you put in? So couldnt this woman show she had a gift of 40k, that she brought to the marriage? I dont actually know the answer to this one, its just me? I'd have a go! Nothing ventured , nothing gained so they say!
One thing though, is you definately have to have proof, without that, there isnt even the possibility of a chance and I dont mean a letter from her Dad saying my daughter owes me £40k and she has till x time to pay it!

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Louise

P.S. Hope we are'nt subject matter to you "lawstudent"!! LOL

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