In nov last year i found my wife had been syphoning money from our joint account. At least 7 thousand pounds was syphoned off in 6 months. The day i found out i left her and now we find ouselves in a position where we cant afford our home. I recieved a letter from her solicitor suggesting a 75 25 split in her favour. kids are 22 18 17 and 15. Just found out that 17 year old is pregnant. Just wondering if wifes behavior affects settlement. House is for sale pre divorce and she has pulled other stunts such as taking house off market without consulting me. Turning down offer without consulting me. This after me giving up my flat as id got into mortgage difficulties. Wife working 16 hours on benefits since march. Incidently the first job shes had in 19 years of marriage even though i said go on a course for a job shed like after the children grow up a bit or go to work and well live without the benefits. I only had my flat for two months now im back to living with friends and family. Cant afford a solicitor myself at present as im trying to keep the roof over my childrens heads so could do with all the help and advice i can get. Incidently there is 70 grand equity in house. She has also got her solicitor to send to letter saying i violently physically assaulted her so I cant have access to the children and the house. I can only prove I havent by bringing the children in as witnesses which i am not prepared to do. She is telling everyone i imaginged the money missing because i 'lost it' after my Mum died two years ago. I have evidence to back up everything she has done including forging my name on cheques but as i have said i wouldnt put the children through any more than they are going through already. I am at wits end financially and emotionally so any advice would be most welcome.
From my very new understanding the starting point in all of this is 50:50 but this will vary due to a number of factors like the age of children and where they are to live. I think more information would be needed for more advice from those here who have experience. For example your salary, pensions, savings etc.
Hope you dont mind me asking but how did she spend the £7K and why did she need to forge your signature if it was a joint account?
On first reading I thought you had just recently moved out and felt that perhaps it was a gut reaction and some type of mediation would be appropriate. I realise now this all happened almost a year ago. Can you discuss any of this with your wife or are things too hostile?
Hopefully someone else can give you more help than I.
She denies taking 7k she says i went loony after my mums death and says i imagine she took money.Cheques she cashed were tax credits she cashed after i left. Cant discuss any of this with her. I offered to sit with a person of her choice or go to counciling so as we could divorce in a civilised way for the kids sakes but she declined.