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12 Nov 07 #6478 by lindy lou
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Any advice please....Long story so will shorten it as much as I can. Married since 1988.Have 3 children( eldest two he adopted after I was widowed) One 26 one 25 - the youngest (his)19 and at uni.The eldest 2 however are both severely disabled- we have a 4 bedroomed fully adapted house (council grant) for their use. My daughter recently contacted c diff from our local hospital and has just been discharged from 12 weeks in Intensive care- they had to remove 95% of her bowel to save her life- she also got ostheomyletis so is unable to walk. I work 15 hours part time in ASDA- and have a carers allowance- he brings home £2,300 each MONTH as a station Commander witin the fire brigade. Anyway last June (2006) he announced that he didn't want to be married anymore and promptly moved in with a male fireman (who he had "feelings" for) He has therefore not contributed a single penny to the family (or his joint mortgage) since. As it is now 17 months the RBS have statred repossession proceedings- In august I was ordered to pay , alone with the DWP, to keep up the interest element.I have done this. There was an MPS hearing booked for tomorrow and I hoped that he would be ordered to contribute towards the mortgage so we woudn't be homeless- however my solicitor has cancelled it - she says as we haven't got his bank statements yet they will adjourn it!!!! He refuses to produce any staements.2nd hearing for divorce 3rd December. I have been to MENCAP- Shelter - CAB- trying desperately to keep our home.they all say that he should be contributing- but he won't. Any advice please= I am now at screaming point.
Lindy Lou

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12 Nov 07 #6481 by topaz
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sorry , I can't advise you but I can offer you some moral support.Be patient,you'll probably get some useful advice from other members before the day's out.I'm sure someone will be able to guide you in the right direction.have a coffee or something to help you get past the "screaming point" and remember you are not alone.best wishes.

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12 Nov 07 #6484 by lindy lou
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Thank you- I was so geared up to the hearing tomorrow- but my solicitor is so negative.We asked for the statments back in July- why the hell is she now talking about "attaching a penal order to the request" at this late stage.I asked if this would look bad on him- she replied it will probably mean we get more of his pension! Bloody pension not much good if I have brokem my back lifting my daughter into the bath of an unadapted house!
I do appreciate the moral support tho- thanks
lindy Lou

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12 Nov 07 #6488 by soulmanuk
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mine not paid for over 12 months, i have a repossession looming and cant afford to live anywhere else. i went to see the debt advisor at the CAB, i have managed to stall repo for 6 months. all the stbx is doing is stalling so it will be repossessed. i am seeing sol on wednesday to try and get some money off the stbx. mortgage company and loan company cant understand how she is getting away with not paying when she is living with her new partner mortgage/rent free and working fulltime. gas and electric etcmust cost hell of a lot more in the next town. she as nights out , holidays and weekends away she as just point blank refused to pay

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12 Nov 07 #6490 by lindy lou
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Everyone says that the kids should be the first priority- he isn't interested.How did you stall the mortgage company for 6 months?

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12 Nov 07 #6493 by loobyloo
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HI lindy
not got any advice but lots of love and respect to you ... youll get sorted
looby x

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12 Nov 07 #6496 by lindy lou
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I hope so- through i don't see how.Fast losing the will to live.I should have shot the little shit when I had chance!

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