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15 Apr 07 #67 by SALLYANN777
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how easy is it to prove unreasonable behaviour, do you need actual dates? do you need concrete evidence for adultry, i have loads of little things that have happened but i never actually caught him out

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15 Apr 07 #70 by wrighty
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apparently, you can be creative with the truth for unreasonable behaviour but you have to have concrete evidence for adultery. For example, seeing them coming out of a hotel room scantily clad is still not enough and it proves nothing (even though it's very obvious). I am in the same position and am going for unreasonable behaviour. It can become a bit of a mud sling though. You need 5/6 examples not dated as far as i am aware.Most of mine or continuous behaviours anyway. Bloody men. god help us.

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15 Apr 07 #72 by SALLYANN777
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thanks for the reply, sometimes life is pretty crap isn't it? my husband was always drinking and when he had a few he would become verbally abusive to me and towards the end the kids as well. he was blowing large ammounts of money on horses, psycics porn sites and goodness knows what else. we took out 30,000 for an extension and he later transferred this money out of a joint bank account into one in his own name. i offered him the chance to keep this money as his share of the house but he is now saying that he has used this money to pay off joint debts. i just hope that i can prove that the debts are all his that he has run up on his credit cards.

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15 Apr 07 #73 by wrighty
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You'll definately get him for unreasonable behaviour. from what you just told me no judge would ever throw that out. Plus, the kids will mean you'll get the house either permanently or at least until the youngest turns 19.

My husband got abusive when drunk, only verbally so but it stopped me wanting to go out and get drunk with him which was one of the reasons he left me, oh an also because I was upset a lot after miscarrying my first much wanted and long awaited child. Apparently, after 4 months i should have 'snapped out of it'. Allegedly, i was boring and no fun any more. grrrr

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15 Apr 07 #74 by SALLYANN777
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sounds very like mine.he could drink a crateful of stubby bottles of lager every night or 2 bottles of red wine and then if he was still awake he would go hunting through every cupboard to find something else to drink. now he tells his solicitor that he couldn,t possibly drink that much because he is on medication for type 2 diabetes, this is something that as only come on in the last few years. if you ask me, his diabetes is caused by his excessive drinking! when i was ill last autumn with a severe chest infection which wasn't responding to antibiotics and awaiting the results of an xray on my lungs, there was one evening when i couldn't eat my tea and he said that it would get me used to not eating when i went into an hospice!!! what a nice man, so believe me i know what you have been through. i also lost my first baby at 7 months, a stillbirth, and he more or less said the same thing, like there was a set time to get over something like that!

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15 Apr 07 #76 by wrighty
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What a tosser. We've gotta stick together. Keep in touch. It helps to have someone who you can talk to that understands.Chin up. I think the best thing you can do is to stop the cycle with your own kids. Don't let him turn them into him. Otherwise you'll never escape the idiot.if you want my email, let me know. speak soon. Big hugs XX

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16 Apr 07 #82 by SALLYANN777
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it,s very true what you say about not letting my kids turn into the same sort of people as him. i,m just glad that i have found the courage to make a break from him while they are still young.my youngest child always used to say to me that he wanted me to get a divorce so he could have a new dad. i feel very guilty that i didn't do something sooner. i am going to sit down tonight and come up with as many examples of his unreasonable behaviour as i can think of, and then make another appointment with my solicitor. i was feeling really down at the end of last week and couldn,t really see a light at the end of the tunnel but thanks to this site i have found new strength to fight on and get him out of our lives for good.

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