i changed sol already cos the one i had was doing nothing. i have tried to do it amicably but she just says go through the sol. the divorce as gone for nisi but i dont know how long it will take. she isnt bothered as she lives with her new partner that has an house that is mortgage free. she works fulltime as does he and only as half the cost of living to pay. she earns £900 a month, her bills are only £250 + £122 csa (based on half of my bills, same poll tax, same size of house) so why is the rest of the money going. she says she as a sol fee of £1800 dont know why cos she isnt doing anything to sort it out. only had one letter off her sol. she is telling everyone she doesnt want the house but yet she wont sign it over unless i give her £12000. 12 months ago i said i would take the house on as i could get a mortgage, but due to Northern Rock fiasco i am now being offered a mortgage that is £10000 short. i cant afford to rent as this is higher than i would struggle to pay for a mortgage,my household income as dropped £1000 a month but the debts are still the same. her total household income is £1900 a month and no debt, so why cant i get her to pay something. she said she would pay a loan £300 a month, but csa told her to pay £122 and she said she cant afford both, why doesnt she offer to pay the £188 difference i will tell you why it is selfishiness and greed. i had 20 years of it so no change there.
soulmanuk, it's easier said than done, I know, however it is better if you can separate emotions from the finances. Whatever the reason you are unlikely to get co-operation from your x2b at the moment and there's no point in thinking something should be different from what it is if you can't change it. No one is saying it's fair, but I agree with your sol and don't think you will get anywhere trying to pursue maintenance from her. All you can do for now is try and minimize your outgoings and ensure you are claiming state help if you are entitled to it. Is a mortgage payment holiday or changing to an interest only mortgage an option?
As far as the capital settlement is concerned the priority is that the children are adequately housed. Your x2b has her housing needs met and it sounds as though you may well have a good case to keep all the equity, or at least your x2b's interest be held as a charge on the property until the youngest child reaches 18 if that enables you to remain in the FMH.
i have asked her to sign for a mortgage holiday and she said f***off go through the solicitor, i cant do anything because she refuses to sign as everything is in joint names, i think she gets a kick out of it all knowing that she as a better life with her new partner and doesnt give a toss about the people she walked out on
what do you class as unreasonble, i have asked her for money, i have tried to speak with her. she just doesnt want to know and is carrying on as if none of this is going on and just says see a solicitor. i have no money and legal aid made a cock up on my application so now i am waiting for them again so i cant do anymore than i am.