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What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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21 Nov 07 #7278 by loobyloo
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oh oh specialdad
your such a cyninc...you do make me laugh though some of your posts are so dry witted looby laughs a lot at them... which is a rare activity these days for me
so thanks

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21 Nov 07 #7284 by NE0
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I am sorry if I appeared ignorant and didn’t respond earlier I haven’t quite got the hang of keeping up with the thread I join yet so sorry to have kept you waiting.
It’s quite strange really but there are about 50% men and 50% women who get divorced. I appreciate that now we have a civil partnership disolvement process then the figures may get skewed slightly as time goes by.
I have found that it tends to be the men who make the decision (and are therefore emotionally prepared for the divorce) often leaving the women floundering on several levels, one of which is financial. For all the venom and animosity that they feel towards their ex, it is no substitute for a logical argument presented in front of a judge. If I can help bring logic and impartiality to my clients then often I can help shorten the process and reduce the pain that often lingers for years.
The men tend to be losing assets rather than gaining them but their incomes tend to rise at a much faster rate post divorce then their ex’s so as clients they are probably better long term prospects but to be honest I simply don't get the same job satisfaction out of helping someone try to keep hold of wealth that in all fairness they should be sharing a little more equally. I don't prey on women, now you’re making me out to be a stalker, it is simply a matter of experience that has shown me that the men often prepare for divorce and may well of sat down with their Independent Financial Adviser (IFA) and acted in a pre-meditated way, leaving the women vulnerable, frightened and without a place to get good advice from.
The CAB does its best as do lawyers, but because of the nature of the Financial Services Industry it is only a qualified adviser who can actually discuss and act on their advice for you. I suspect that many people in this website’s community will not have an IFA and not know where to find one. They are probably cautious of taking advice because it is a very personal relationship that develops between client and adviser and they are probably highly unlikely to pay for the advice upfront. They could turn to their bank but it’s unlikely they will see an experienced adviser in divorce work and highly unlikely that they will receive Independent advice from a Bank.
This is an offer to discuss their queries and help to answer their questions. I am unable to give full advice until I know all the circumstances and an open web site forum is defiantly not the place to be sharing sensative personal information. So just occasionally there are a few of us who actually want to put something back into society. I earn a living out of helping others, if that allows me to give up some time to answer questions and queries that people have in a way that helps put their mind at rest or moves them forward in the process of their divorce then I am pleased to have helped. If they want to become a client then that's a bonus.
It has not been my intention to offend anyone, merely to see if I can be of service to people in need

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21 Nov 07 #7285 by lindy lou
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In Neo's defence- he gave me some very useful advice and some good leads on what to do next- All free.Let's not be too hasty in judging shall we. Drop him an email and see what he says- you have nothing to lose.
Lindy Lou:)

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21 Nov 07 #7287 by soulmanuk
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how do you sort out a problem where one refuses to pay anything, wont sign anything and just buries there head in the sand. if you can sort my problem out then you are worth your weight in gold. others have tried and failed.

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21 Nov 07 #7288 by lindy lou
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I didn't say he could preform miracles- just that he had some useful advice!

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21 Nov 07 #7290 by Louise11
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In Neos defence!

I think it would be more appropriate to approach The Wikivorce site owners and ask permission to register so that an appropriate link to his website could be obtained if people wish to use it! Just like the Solicitors do! That way people can leave their comments if they use anybody.
I have been to his link, he doesn't have a link to Wikivorce now does he?
People are understandably vunerable and have all sorts of emotions running through their minds on this divorce site and some are desperate for financial advice, it would be nicer if, like alot of us on here that advice came for free.
If it does then thats ok, but the wind up thing here is the advertising, remember the collabrative law post anyone? It got a massive amount of peoples backs up! I have no objections to people making a living, its just its a rotten field to work in and i know someones got to do it, but i want people to rememeber there are ALWAYS two sides to every story. This guy seemed to just be sticking up for the women?

Kind regards
Louise

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21 Nov 07 #7300 by markp
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I AGREE WITH LOUISE11 HE SEEMS TO THINK MEN PLAN DIVORCE IN ADVANCE TO CHEAT THEIR WIFES, BUT IN MY CASE IT WAS MY WIFE THAT HAD IT ALL PLANNED AND SET THE DIVORCE IN MOTION BEFORE I KNEW WHAT HIT ME, AS WELL AS WALKING OUT ON ME SHE ALSO WALKED OUT ON OUR SON AND TOKE ABOUT 8 WEEKS TO MAKE CONTACT TO SEE HOW HE WAS, THEN IT WAS ON ADVICE FROM HER SOLICITOR, NOW AFTER NOT HAVING MUCH TO DO WITH HIM FOR 8 MONTHS SHES DECIDED SHE WANTS CUSTODY BECAUSE SHES BEEN ADVICED IT WILL GIVE HER THE LIONS SHARE OF SETTLEMENT AND SHE CAN CLAIM CM OFF ME. SO NEO WOULD BE BEST LAYING OFF THE MEN ON THIS SITE AND UNDERSTAND THAT SOME WOMEN CAN BE JUST AS BAD IF NOT WORSE.

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