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Should I hold back till he pays up?

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03 Jan 08 #9912 by twistedb
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Ok, my Ex and I have managed to get through most of this ok so far, The house has been sold, split up and we have used the proceeds to pay off one the larger of two joint loans. The last few sticking points however are proving to be, well, sticky. The main issue is that our seperation has been very straightforward, no kids, just belongings. The final issue now really is that He has possesion of a car which we bought outright with cash borrowed from my family which he is under the impression that he should be entitled to without any payment to myself or my family. (note that the money borrowed has not been paid back) The arguement he raises is that he moved out of the marital home a couple of months before the sale was finalised whilst I still lived there - his choice - and whilst he wasnt there he carried on paying half the bills.

We have agreed a value of the car based on its current market value but he has stated that he cannot afford nor does he think he should give any money towards it. I have suggested that if we cannot agree about this issue then the car should be sold and the entire proceeds given back to the original borrowees

In the meantime theres one last loan outstanding, oddly the same approximate value as the car, I know it sounds petty, but I'm holding off paying off my half of this loan until a resolution is found with regards to the car. I'm pretty convinced that if everything is paid up without this he will never see fit to pay anything for the car.

So, I'm holding out for a bit, is this ok?

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03 Jan 08 #9916 by LittleMrMike
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Just be careful. You could easily finish up spending more arguing about the car than it's worth.


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25 Jan 08 #11927 by twistedb
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I havent persued this with a solicitor yet. He has now threatened to go to his for advice but I actually think its a dry threat to make me stop asking for any money, especially as that was nearly 3 weeks ago and I have heard nothing else. I'm now also finding that he cancelled the DDs earlier than he should have even though I paid him everything required for the final month of our house ownership and I am being chased for bills that I have already paid to him - He took over the joint account with all the DDs and I was paying him my half every month to cover my half of the bills. I paid for the full month of November even though the house sale went through on 16th and haven't been given anything back. :angry:

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26 Jan 08 #11939 by dumped2
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maybe i,m daft but unless the car is a porsche jag r some other really expensive model is it really worth the hassle for a few grand compared to getting him out of your life 100% and moving on. It reminds me a little of that film war of the roses. tongue stuck firmly in cheek.

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