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Have no finances from him, do i do AR now

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20 Mar 08 #17308 by twinks
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well as you know he has been gone 3 weeks, before he left he had already either stopped paying bills or cancelled DD, problem is he had them all in my name. He has also not paid a penny in child support. I know theres AR but what is interium maintence, and should I apply for that first. Have a sol but she doesnt seem to be that fast.

He is really trying to pay as little as possible, he offered csa amounts, but pays the ex gf of his daughter twice that csa amount a week, so he is even trying to not pay our kids enough.

Next question as both kids are special needs and this is dealt with with the courts, do I need to apply to them? At the moment I have no money and have no idea what to do.

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20 Mar 08 #17320 by sexysadie
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You should apply for interim maintenance for yourself through the courts as the AR will take a while to sort out. Go to the CSA for child maintenance for the moment as it is better than nothing.

Good luck!
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20 Mar 08 #17321 by zozo
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Hi sadie
Do you know roughly how long will it take to sort out the interim maintenance through the courts. I am so worried as my STBX threats.
Many thanks
zozo

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21 Mar 08 #17347 by sexysadie
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I don't know (I haven't had to do this myself) but I understand it is pretty quick as it is intended to make sure people aren't left destitute. I know the ScottishLady got it so it might be worth sending her a personal message to ask how long it took. Tell your solicitor that you have nothing to live on and need to apply for interim maintenance and that might speed her up a bit.

Good luck!

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21 Mar 08 #17353 by scottishlady
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Hi....
I think I may be 'the Scottishlady' that Sadie is referring to......
If it's of any help, I didn't actually get as far as court when my sol told my stbx's sol that she was filing for interim maintenance....
Under duress, my stbx agreed to pay the mortgage and council tax.... 'but would not pay anything else'.....
My sol then advised me that because he had agreed to pay those two things the court would see it that he actually WAS paying maintenance....therefore she didn't think it was worth pursuing through the court system.....

It seems that in my case.... the 'threat' of going to court was enough to convince my stbx that he would contribute at least something....

I'm not convinced however that the right decision was made...... I think, for someone who earns approx 4K per month, he should infact be contributing slightly more that 400 quid a month..... and I can't help wondering if, perhaps, I should have 'insisted' that we continue through the courts....

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21 Mar 08 #17355 by scottishlady
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Sorry......
I should also have said that my sol told me the process would take weeks as opposed to months.... ofcourse, it depends on how busy individual courts are.... but, I believe it is given quite high priority....

Hope this helps

SL

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21 Mar 08 #17375 by zozo
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Hi
Many thanks to both of you Sady and Scotish. It is some how reasuring that interim maintenance is given high priority by the court.
zozo

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