1.Got first appt 16 May. I wish to say yes on form g to turn first appt to fdr as delays cause me financial prejudice as csa and mtge mean I pay c 55% of net pay each month now . Cant stop paying mtge as I work for bank involved and could lose job if cant manage own finances..but suspect other side will not want to to fdr at first appt and want actuary reports etc any. Will judge overrule them and agree FDR ?
2.Statement of issues - is this just for me to write down on a piece of paper and send to court the impasse and what I want to happen etc ?
3. I hope thisis just a few lines on a piece of paper with dates of marriage , birth, childrens dob and separation date. ?
4.Questionnaire - is this a standard form or do I just put some questions about wifes form H and send to her sols and copy court in ?
I too wanted first appointment to be FDR but my vindictive STBX changed her mind last minute. They had all of my paperwork a month before, yet they only sent theirs to mine 1/2 day before the day. It was a waste of time as nothing was discussed and I had to pay both solicitor and barrister.
So unless BOTH sides agree for it to be FDR you may just lose out.
You will most likely have limited questions., She will ask for everything. Bonuses, past bonuses, shares, pensions etc... and this gets difficult as many banks staggered bonuses over the last 4 years so you will need to contact HR and have them send you documentation on how they were staggered and what is still owed.
FINALLY- Call the CSA, if your mortgage is OVER what you should be paying, do NOT pay anymore. I was stupid and tried to appease everyone. Done with that now. I am still paying mortgage and that is it. I am still getting threatening emails about interim but nothing materialised yet.
Thanks and I hope all works out well for you.
All I can do is ask and if it stays as FDA then so be it. Yes I can imagine a request for all that info but I do have my past 3 yrs p60 ready if needed and they can then see the bonuses as my salary base has stayed virtually same so easy to work out.
Regards the statement of issues , what sort of things did you put in here. I am doing the paperwork and just getting sol for the FDA oif reqd. She is at court that day anyway and if I kno its just fda I will go it alone to save costs.
On my list, I had jewellry that she had not listed and furniture- sounds trivial but I left with nothing and we have really nice and very expensive things.
I also questioned inheretence which I believed she received. I wasnt interested in this, nor do I feel entitled to it as it is her family- but when the other side wants everything, you feel the need to return the favour.