I stayed in my home I owned (mortgaged) prior to the marriage which became our matrimonial home when we did in jan 2006
My wife moved into rented and took all our savings plus her deposit plus first month''s rent plus her car and we bought the usual home stuff - sofas, beds, kettle, iron, vacuum etc. We bought another car for her from matrimonial funds when the one she took died and she scrapped it.
She had a total of £6158 plus I paid for 12 months, periodic payments of £188 (total 2256) to support her while she adjusted to her financial independence. We did not agree a Consent Order though I continually asked for one.
Her solicitor said she wanted voluntary disclosure in summer 2011 and I prepared form E but then heard ''there were issues surrounding her entitlement to public funding and they would be in touch''. Nobody ever got in touch, and letters to her solicitor asking for updates went unanswered.
In March 2012 the local mediation service asked to see me and says my wife (we have a Decree Nisi) wishes to mediate on financial matters.
My house is valued between £142,000 to £148,000. My mortgage £135,500 (plus early repayment fees and sale costs) I have a £2000 overdraft and a £5000 loan to pay off some debts to my father (£2256) and for a new condenser boiler and radiators after mine died. I own an old car (250,000 miles and rising) and have no other assets barring a pension I built up prior to the marriage and did not contribute to during or since.
She has a child from a previous relationship , father overseas and un-contactable, her son called me Dad and I brought him up for 4 years as my son but am no longer allowed contact.
My worry is when she finds her ''payout'' isn''t as fat as she hopes, especially if there''s no lump sum, she''ll drag things out or go back to her solicitor in the hope of getting more.
Should I take out a further loan and just offer her a lump sum to ''buy myself a Consent Order'' and get it settled ?? Or should I try for periodic payments ? (as she intends to cohabit in the summer and possibly remarry fairly soon)
She''s 27 , I''m 42 my salary 38000, hers not much but she currently gets housing benefit and income support on top of her part-time job.
I wouldn''t mind paying child support especially if I got to see him sometimes.
What do you wise owls think ?